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I have looked in to f2f al-anon meetings in my area and all of them seem to be joined mettings with AA. I dont know how that works or if it would be a good idea.
Do you let your A know that you are going to al-anon, reading the books, going on the fourms, or any of that? If not and they find out how do you respond?
This morning my Abf asked if he could borrow 20 dollars. I told him nice and calm that i would not leand him any money beacuse he is just going to buy cigerates and beer. He said "not beer" but cigeretts. I still said no. i have already given him money this month. He just went to the stairs to leave and then said in a playing voice " please" a few times. I did not respond. He just said "so thats a no??? ok then" he came back up gave me a kiss good bye said i love you and left. I turely was not upset or really had any feeling about not giving him the money it was just words to me. About 30 minutes later i got a text that said. " dont worry im not mad I understand why you wouldn't let me. I love you" i texted back :i love you to. end of conversation. did I handle this right? He has been broke for a few days so he has only had a beer here and there when people offer it to him instead of drinking until I can tell everyday.
Are there any more good books to read? I just finished Getting Them Sober volume 1.
If im reading the ad right i believe they are held together in the same room. The both say 8pm with the same location inside the hospital. and the other in the church.
I've never heard of a 'shared' meeting... I think you'll find that they are in two separate rooms.... I cannot imagine how it could possibly work, having AA & Al-Anon in the same room...
Tom
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