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I am not really sure how to use posts. I have been in a realationship for over 2 years and my boyfriend has been sober for 3 years, we get on great but it seems he only sticks to something for a few weeks and then changes his mind and that includes us moving in together and he always has an excuse but turns it around to me, I want to know is this normal behaviour for a recovering alocholic as I seem to be the one who is feeling insercure now, I know he loves me as I do
Only your boyfriend knows why he does or doesn't do things. If I read your post without considering that you are involved with an alcoholic, I just see your boyfriend as someone who is trying to find his way. That could be true of any person whether they are an alcohol or not.
Are you waiting for him? You didn't mention if you're going to Alanon meetings. For me, meetings have been a great way to take care of myself. I know that no matter what happens, I will get loving support at Alanon meetings. It's the best place I go to share my life and I am always warmly welcomed. I was taught how to find and keep serenity, own happiness and how to set boundaries concerning myself and other people.
Relationships are complicated but over time you'll find your own answers about the situation with your boyfriend. I hope you will choose what best honors your life and happiness. hugs. TT
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Surround yourself with people and elements that support your destiny, not just your history.
Sending you support! Being involved with and alcoholic can be very confusing and painful. The face to face meetings have helped me immensely. The information, literature and support were and and continue to be a wonderful, unexpected gift of being married to a lovely, sometimes still drinking, AH. Keep coming back. It really does work.
