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odalis


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So as usual my husband was drunk the other day and wanted to disagree with everything I was saying so I politely ignored him and came to bed to watch TV. That night he woke me up and I was so annoued he would wake me up at 1 am...but in his drunken self he told me he wants to go to AA. Of course he was drunk nut the fact that he actualy said this was a complete shocker and gives me some hope that ome day he will really decide to go. The next morning I explaind that it's not just a one day thing. If he is going to go then he neds to go. So he knows what his problem is and recognizes it but apparently not ready to take the next step yet. I used what I have learned to tell him he cant ever have his first drink because his body and brain dont know when to stop and he seemed to agree with that. Like I said he made no promises but the fact that me even memtioned it is progress for him. In the meantime I I did zumba yeaterday and it was all for me!

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hotrod


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Hi Odalis

Opening the door to discussion is always a powerful. tool

So very glad that  you took care of you at "Zuimba "  It is a great way to work out and keep the focus on yourself smile



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Good for you! It sound good that your expectations are rather low....but in a healthy way that keeps you centered.

I used to think that alcoholics who refused to go to AA were bullheaded and stubborn. Now I think they are just scared and weak.

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Pushka


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Hugs,

So glad you are taking care of you and just letting him do what he needs to do. Being in a good spot emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually is the only way to roll. :)

Hugs P :)

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Mattie


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It sounds as if some part of him recognizes that there is a problem.  He knows how to find AA should he decide to follow through on that.  It does sound as if you're doing so well at keeping your expectations reasonable.  Good for you and zumba!



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Debilyn


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You did well.

My experience is it is totally his thing. My AH finally learned I was not into talking about it.

I said its your disease, your decision whatever you do. I love you.

I was not going to be his counselor or teacher or police person, po or any of it. Totally his thing like we have used, like his brushing his teeth.

How many of us talk about brushing our teeth? You need a new t brush? whats your point?

For me handling it this way has kept me friends with a couple people i adore who are A's. One has been a great friend since we were twelve.

anyway good!!!! love,deb



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Michelle814


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Awesome post because you are happy for him for even the mention but not nagging him to follow through.. the seed has been planted.. now go do zumba!! love that.

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