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For those who read my post "If I had One Wish" I shared in that post about concern over a co-worker who smelled of alcohol after returning from lunch.
Well I was making myself just plain sick over it, so I thought about how I could talk to my supervisor about my concerns, but not get this co-worker into trouble. I knew that wouldn't work because if I came to him saying i had concerns, then he might ask me what they were and then I would have to tell them. (Not saying something is okay with me depending on why I am keeping quiet, but being asked a direct question truns that into lying in my head, and I won't do that) Then I thought about what he would say, and knowing him the way I do, my supervisor would ask me if I had spoken to her about my concerns.
I thought "Oh boy, I don't want to do this, I have confrontation" But then I thought that if I was just going in to her to share my concerns and let her know I was there for her, and if I wasn't expecting anything, then it would be okay. I didn't want to make her mad by going to her, but then I thought if she does that is her decission.
So I went to her. Shut her office door and let her know that I smelled the alcohol. She told me about her lunch. I told her that I was worried about her and told her why I was. We had a really good heart to heart talk, and in the end I let her know I was there for her.
This co-worker is going through a hard time right now, and what makes it worse is that the whole agancy knows about her personal business. I told her that I have had the same thing happen to me in regards to my business being shared around the agency and she knew that because she was here when that happened to me.
I told her because of that and because of my alanon (I am very open to people about alanon. They all know about my "A" beign an "A") and I told her that confidentiality was something I hold dear.
I left feeling better. I was no longer feeling sick. I know she lied to me about some other things, but I wasn't talking to her to fix her, only she can do that. I was just reaching out and telling her in the most loving way, "I am worried about you."
I called my sponsor when I got home. I am very proud of myself. That wasn't easy for me to go to my co-worker, but not everything is easy.
Much Love,
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"Today's problems can not be solved if we still think the way we did when we created them" -Albert Einstein
hey dolphin that was AWSOME!!!! you going to her and saying * am here for U* not judging, not *narcing her to boss*..... SO cool!!!!! LOVED this share/ rosie
Good for you! That was a very hard thing to do... I don't think I could heve done it so I am glad you are proud of yourself cuz you have every right to be!
