The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
And this is me, pretending to be happy, making the day bright for my son while my husband lies in a coma a mile away from me. His drinking did this. A week ago he was still handsome. A week ago he was strong. A week ago he was talking and laughing and being a dad.
And because you're trying you are not alone...MIP is with you at this time...the fellowship here know what you are going thru some more than others and you are not alone. Go to the white pages of your local telephone book and look for Al-Anon and call that hotline number to see where and when we meet face to face in your area and when you can come join those who have worn your shoes also.
Confirmation...yes it sucks...for now but not for ever. You will love the people you are with right now in a way you never have before...your child and yourself and then you will loose that feeling of loneliness. One thing I did when I was where you are at now and I learned it over time was to go spend sometime with someone who needed help themselves...sounded weird and it worked.
Stick around the board today when you are not playing with your child and do something good for yourself and others. We are with you.
(((Dahlia))), Welcome to MIP. I'm so sorry to read about your husband. Yeah, it sucks being alone on Christmas. I'm alone too even though my A is supposedly with me. But he drank and slept through yesterday and last night and is doing the same today. I don't have any kids or family, but at least I have my dogs for company. I went ahead and made my turkey, it's in the oven now. And I'm going to have a good dinner when it's ready even if I do have to eat alone. Keep doing your best to take care of you and your son. Sending you understanding and support. You and your family will be in my prayers.
Thanks everyone. As sick as he is, I'm told he has to choose between sobriety and death. Even one drink can land him in the hospital again. A binge will kill him.
I hope you all are finding some peace and joy today.
I am so sorry about your husband. I hope you can find a face2face Al-Anon meeting. You need support on the ground, so to speak. Keep coming here often, though and feel the love and support we have to offer. MIP saved me in the dark times. I am very grateful. Wish I could give you a real life hug. Whatever happens with your husband, you can't control, but your life can get better. Keep coming back.
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~Jen~
"When you come to the edge of all you know you must believe in one of two things... there will be earth on which to stand or you will be given wings." ~Unknown
Thinking of you - you are certainly not alone at this. And its a very difficult time of the year isn't it to be facing/dealing with this disease. There is much support and comfort here for you at MIP and in face-to-face meetings.
I am not you - I am not in your situation - but I can try to understand because I can relate and see the simialarities to my situation. Take care of you - you are doing awesomely.
I am so so sorry you are going through this. I am so glad you can reach out to us for support. Please know there is a chat room on this site and meetings twice a day.
The ex A who I was involved with for over 7 years did irretrievable damage to his health and that angered and saddened me tremendously. I did not know how to deal with my emotions did not feel trusting of the tools and took a long long time to come out of a spiral.
I would highly recommend all of al anon's tools to detach, reevaluate boundaries, take care of yourself and more. Reach out for all the support you need and deserve.
