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I know in the scheme of things, this isn't the worst that can happen, but after beautifully detatching all morning (with my two little ones) from the knowledge that my husband got loaded last night after I went to bed, I find the door unlocked AGAIN. I'm furious. Last time, after posting here and speaking with my sponser, I courteously mentioned it. He quickly apologized and that was that. About a week later, here I am again. I'm pissed. Period. And resentful that now I have more work to do to get through this feeling. Thanks for listening.
rightfully so, danni. Times like these I call my sponsor. Anger is a natural feeling to have over something like this. You are aware of what you need to do in your program and what you need now is support from fellow Al-Anon friends.
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Michelle!
No one can take away your peace of mind unless you let them.
So sorry you are frustrated and as stated rightfully so. Feelings aren't facts and it's so ok to be angry, what's such a blessing to me is while I have the right to be angry I don't have to stay stuck there, I can just allow it to flow through me and move on.
Sending lots of support and hugs.
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Danni, I'm so sorry you are going through this yet again. Anger and resentment towards someone acting irresponsibly is a sore point for me as well. I'm not quite where I should be when it comes to finding peace with it, but I feel much better knowing I'm not alone. I'm glad you're posting here and working through these feelings with your sponsor. Sending you esh!
Just as an initial thought, and I may be right off track here but.... as you can't control him locking the door or not, and you want safety.... is there some other form of security you can put on??? Say... a light sensor, or an alarm if the door is opened????? You could maybe put it on before you go to bed???? A light sensor just outside or some other form of security that you could have control over>????? As I said.. just a thought.
