The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
A year ago my head was spinning, I couldn't spend anytime alone and had left my AH a couple months before, so I jumped into dating a very unhealthy guy and couldn't figure out how to stop all the crazy cycles going on. I was miserable, didn't like myself and was obsessed and so very judgemental towards everyone and everything. I have come a very long way.
Life is very much not perfect, but it is good. I am a much calmer and quieter person. I can listen and not should people. I can smile and be in the moment. I am listening to myself when I get a red flag and not proceeding ahead anyway. I am not reacting to my A's and if anything I have been better than ever at dettachment finally with love. I have more understanding and compassion than ever and am feeling so good about things in general.
I still have moments, but come out of them faster and back into reality with a lesson learned. Since finding Al-anon a year ago my life has become manageable and peaceful. I have my serenity and am taking care of myself and my kids better than I have in a long time. I am so appreciative for this program and all the people who helped me pick myself up off the floor bleeding and bruised and helped me to grow to where I am now. Thanks MIP members for your love and support! I can only imagine where I will be in another year. Sending you all love and support on your journey!
-- Edited by Breakingfree on Wednesday 21st of December 2011 01:22:06 PM
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Sending you love and support on your journey always! BreakingFree
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" Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."
"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."
Awww hugs BF .. just think there is another wonderful year coming of great changes your way!!
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
(((BF))) I was just thinking about this myself today. It will soon be two years since I found this place (MIP). I was thinking about how much calmer and peaceful I feel. How I've gotten better at dealing with people (and not just my A) since I've learned and been practicing the principles of alanon. This board and all the people here have made such a positive difference in my life. Including you. As always, thanks for sharing and for the inspiration.
I am only 1 month behind you dear - this program has saved my sanity, saved me from jumping back into chaos and then wondering why things don't ever seem to work out. Here's to next year eh?
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I am strong in the broken places. ~ Unknown
All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another! ~ Anatole France
I am also so very grateful for coming back and for how that has paid off in my life also. Congradulations BF on your 1st year and Katie 2 years without a face to face meeting available to you and working the program as it has been brought to you by the fellowship on MIP is miraculous!! You keep coming back likemyheart cause what you've learned on the journey is so helpful for those coming up behind you...you hold the light up high!! You all are soooo supportive and loving to those who come looking and wanting change. (((((hugs)))))
Gosh what a remarkable metamorphosis you have made from confusion to faith, hope, and trust. Keep up the good work, one day at a time.
Merry Christmas to you!
Tommye