wow this is definatley a cunning and baffling disease.  I have been with my partner for nearly 7 years I have been in al non for 4 and he has been in AA for 2 and a half.  I have learnt so much yet know this is only the tip of the iceberg.  We seperated after his last slip my boundary I will not be part of his active drinking.  He was very ill got himself back to AA as no one rescuing anymore and I focused on me.  I even went on a date with someone else.  He found out amnd came back declaring his love.  I amvery awre that this illness is for life and that sobriety does not mean he is cured. He has just visited the way he spoke was very control I did not retaliate just said wow I used to speak to my ex in that tone its not very kind or loving.  He picked up the mirror as he is in recovery and going to between 7-14 meetings a week. 

I know today that I have to have my life seperate from this relationship good days are a bonus but today I matter and try and focus on me.  Al anon and my higher power are preventing me from slipping back into the denial of everything is o.k he is not drinking.  I am enjoying his company I will set boundaries.  I intend to love me , take care of me, work my own programme and hand him over.  the outcome is in Hps hands not mine it is no longer a life or death situation feel like I am finally starting to find me I am no longer his siamese twin.  I know thanks to recovery he is sick and as long as we are both in recovery there can be some form of relationship, but I only have to work on keeping one side of the street cclean and laeve his battles to him.

hugs tracy xxx