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I love the movie Rainmaker with Burt Lancaster and Katherine Hepburn. I identify with Lizzy - being treated like she was a challenging daughter to marry off because she wasn't conventionally "pretty".

Makes me glad to grow up in the era I did, I wasn't just a challenging daughter to marry off!

I love the part where Starbuck is challenging Lizzy's self-perception. Teaching her to fight back against those who would try to knock her down and doubt her self worth.


You're ugly Lizzy, - says Starbuck

No I'm not, I'm beautiful, - replies Lizzy - and she is, in her own wonderful way, Lizzy is a beautiful woman, made exactly the way God intended her to be made.

I am striving to be what God intended me to be - regardless of what ANYBODY else tries to make me feel about myself. I am working to be true to myself, re-learning to follow my gut instinct and loving myself because, as the saying goes - God don't make junk!

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Absolutely perfect!!  I got to feeling like junk all from my own personal perceptions and stinking thinking and I was wrong.  The disease of alcoholism isn't the best by far gardent to plant seeds however the master gardener knows how to cultivate his/her planting and when I keep doing my part I keep rising while facing the sun.   Mahalo Nui Like my heart.

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No, God doesn't make junk. I'm glad you realize that. Feels good, doesn't it.

I can think of several people who by Madison Avenue's standards would be so-so looking. However, they don't allow their spirit to be hijacked. Their spirit shines through and they are beautiful.



-- Edited by GailMichelle on Friday 9th of December 2011 12:07:41 PM

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i liked your share very much. And yes you are beautiful becuz you are a woman! Inner beauty makes  outer beauty.

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Great share because it's so true we allow others to dictate how we feel and see ourselves which usually is our own stinking thinking!!

Hugs P :)

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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo



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love it. thank you.

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No one can take away your peace of mind unless you let them.



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I certainly have my own issues with self esteem.  Today I go to get my hair cut and work on feeling better about myself. I'm so glad you are working on yourself.  That takes great resilience and bravery.

Maresie.



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I wrote this because it is what has been be-duggering in my mind recently ( I just made that word up! ); it seems a lot of posts recently are anti-self themed and this was/is my response to them - I was going to write it as a reply to just one poster but the more I thought about it, it seemed to want a post of its own. It is written to every one of us who is dreading the holidays and feeling like something is wrong with US because we are alone; the fear of being alone forever because we are somehow unloveable; the fear that maybe the A was right, maybe we are ____________________ (you fill in the blank) and are doomed to live in chaos forever.

Don't let anyone define you - that's your job! Happy Friday!

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I am strong in the broken places. ~ Unknown All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another! ~ Anatole France


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Thats the only thing about the TV show Ugly Betty that I like
There she is amongst 'beautiful' people and she is the nicest one there that everyone else ends up loving.
And apparently she is ugly.
I don't see it myself. I have met 'ugly' people. Some onthe inside and the outside, some just outside, some just inside.

I looked back at some old photos the othe week, I actually said that I wish I was as ugly now, as I thought I was then. I know that sounds strange. I show those pictures to people and they say... WOW... stunning!!!!!! At the time I thought I was fat, ugly, worthless, I was told so constantly, stretchmarks, sagging parts. I had full body cosmetic surgery and I was 'perfect' body wise for aobut a year. I ruined it and now weigh 35kg more than I did then. My hair has broken off brittle and its now short not long and luscious like it was. My skin has deteriorated over the 12 years also.

So... I wish I looked now, as ugly as I thought I was then. Its our perception isn't it.



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likemyheart wrote:


Don't let anyone define you - that's your job! Happy Friday!


 Thank You "Like my Heart  That statement said it all.

 Alanon tools, the Steps, the Meetings, focusing on myself, all gave me back the only thing that was mine,   MYSELF and I am truly grateful



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