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Debilyn


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OMGosh how the heck do you do it??? You who live with A's you have  to love them a lot.

I am not sure I should even be here anymore, but its home!

This tenant is an A no question. The insanity of how he thinks is beyond what I remember. He lies, makes no sense. Says one thing, does another, lies some more.

Keeps putting me down, trying to control me. Assumes stuff that makes zero sense.

I was up at one am in pain, and cold. I thought everything was ok. Get on the computer and he has some zing he has to hit me with. gads.

It's amazing though that the Al Anon tools are what I am using to choose not to deal with him. But after being with NO A's, the craziness of it is so much worse than I remember. And I don't live with him or see him.

he is nothing to me. well especially now.

I am working hard on not allowing his bolony to ever bother me. That is just does not matter. Maybe it is more I told everyone i was going to be ok and now I probably am not again and need help! gads.

It's more I have to scramble now to get back on track. BUT I do have an income, we will be ok. Its so weird how they can sneak up on you though.

His wife is supposed to put the rent on my walmart card. money pak. I just emailed him and told him my friend is bringing me to walmart and please ask his wife where to meet her to get cash instead. I bet you he does not answer me. He is not a man.

I sure can see why he got fired.

sucks to be him I guess. Sad too.

sigh huge sigh. My friend came over and brought chainsaw and cut he oak those nice people brought and got a good fire going. so nice. we yakked for hours. He means a lot to me. been rough but he is there.

I asked him isn't it weird to see me sitting here with dogs literally all around me? He says no, that is deb. Then i was talking about when this family of dogs is gone, I will have one dog. He said no, that is not you, you will never have just one. well he is right, as in my mind I am thinking i will get one giant and a Basset.....sigh so his friendship really was wonderful to be around. And that is another way to get thru some tough things..

A's can't bury them, don't want to dig them back up if ya do.

hugs,debilyn who got off her bum. Is working hard. So now tore her shoulder again, cut her knuckle off, fingers ache, and feel like hamberger....but I am happy.

 



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Pushka


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Hugs Deb I'm so glad you got some wood boy do I know that song and dance! Do you know the hardest thing to get rid of, .. an alcoholic. They just keep coming back. It's ok that they do, because it's really on us how we handle them.

Anyway, thinking of you sending lots of prayers.

Hugs P :)

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Lindaoakford


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always getting a reminder aren't we

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Breakingfree


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Never thought I wanted to lose my A and after I did, I realized the saying is so true, it isn't easy to shake mine off! Keep up the great work Deb! Sending you love and support!

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Debi,

It might be safe to say that you're one of MIPs favorite happy hamburgers! I hope you feel better soon.

What a good reminder that this disease is so powerful, cunning, and baffling. I remember being so shocked every time my exHA behaved bizarrely; fortunately, I'm not "in" it anymore and, thanks to Alanon and MIP, I mostly don't take it on like I used to.

I'm sorry you're having so much difficulty obtaining the rent... the active disease sure knows how to slime out of responsibility. So frustrating.

It's nice your friend is there for you- what a lovely blessing.

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Yes, Deb, this disease is cunning. It will use any way possible to get to us.

Of course you belong here. I know you are well aware that one does not have to have an active A in their lives to qualify for Al-Anon. Otherwise many of us whose A's are sober or have been lost to us would not be allowed back. What a travesty that would be. Honestly, I believe that once you are qualified for Al-Anon, you never get unqualified. I know that if all my A's disappeared tomorrow, I would still be affected. I would still be at risk of slipping into those old behaviors that are so unhealthy that I hated who I was when I came in the door of Al-Anon.

I would eventually hate myself again because the disease waits for us, too, not just the drinker. It waits for us to think we're ok and let our guard down. I even caught it one day sitting behind me at my sons 4-H meeting whispering in my ear that I am different, that I don't belong. It said I am not like those people and they will never accept me. And I believed it for a moment until I saw it for what it was and turned to my program and HP. I don't always recognize it when it sneaks in, but I am getting better at spotting it where it hides.

I will never be without my Al-Anon. It is a part of me now, and it is my only defense against the monster that is alcoholism/addiction.

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rosielee


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you sure are a magent for them arent you. i have huge warning bells about this guy and his ability to pay his rent. i can see his wife getting fed up with doing it- and i can foresee her getting fed up with paying and stopping- in fact- looks like this is already happening as you havent been paid this week have you. have i got the wrong end of the stick?

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Jozie


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(((((Deb))))

Sending Healing Prayers Your Way for all your boo boo :0)

I too Struggle Alot when it comes to the A's in my World, THANK GOD ABOVE for this Program, because Lord Knows Before it, it was even tougher... BUT... That Being said, I have to Keep Coming Back for there are days my ONLY Santuary is HERE! :0)

Love & Hugs Chic

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