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Was on vacation last week, no internet or phone use so am now getting caught up.
When my AH agreed to go on vacation with my family months ago he was happy and excited about it. Well, within minutes of getting to our destination last week he was awful. Complained the whole time, said he didn't want to be there, etc. It was the most stressful week I have had in a long time as we were in tight quarters with my family and I could keep almost no buffer between him and them. Sometimes he gets along with them fine, other times not so much.
Once we got there and I realized what type of a week it was going to be I didn't know what to do. I basically did my best to mitigate any blow ups and got through it, for the most part, unscathed. But my family now even more than ever thinks my husband is a jerk. I don't know what I was thinking to even plan this vacation. I took his word that he wanted to go and it ended up being the worst time of my life. I will never plan another vacation with my family and my AH again, ever. I feel so betrayed and let down by him, I ask almost nothing of him and he made my life miserable last week and he knew it. He picked arguments with me all the way home (10 hours) and expressed how much he hates my sister. I thought they were really going to get into a few times. Ugh.
I guess I just needed to vent. I hope the rest of you had a better Turkey Day than me, I just want to foget it. :)
Ugh, that sounds awful. My ex kind of derailed a big vacation I had planned, and there was no family involved. Lots of complaining too. It was a bummer. So I'm sending you hugs and SOLO vacations! Peaceful, solo vacation next time...aaaaaaaah. Sometimes that solo "vacation" just means a longer shower or extra stolen time with a book at night, but those moments work wonders.
