The material presented
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information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
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Hi(( richie)) Glad you found us! I agree, there's not a lot of info on alcoholic/addicted siblings, but I think you'll find the things that al-anon teaches you will apply no matter who it is in your life that has a drinking problem. I'm glad to hear you're attending al-anon meetings- how is that going for you?
I have found a world of knowledge, support, and hope on this MIP site. I hope that you find the same.
Please keep coming back!
Denise
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"The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time."
I want to extend a warm welcome to you! Glad you found us.
I sure hope you are considering Al-Anon meetings. No matter who the alcoholic is in your life, Al-Anon has the answers / path that can lead you to a peaceful life. Give the program some time before you decide if it's for you or not. If I had determined if the program was for me after my initial meeting, I might still be caring around the unwarranted guilt.
Removing the guilt is just the tip of the ice berg for me. Al-Anon program is something that can benefit anyone who is breathing at any stage in his/her life.
But you won't know what I'm speaking of if you don't go! So get curious and go with an open mind. As the saying goes, A chair is waiting for you!
Keep coming back and sharing.
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You have to go through the darkness to truly know the light. Lama Surya Das
Resentment is like taking poison & waiting for the other person to die. Malachy McCourt
Welcome to MIP! My older brother is one of the A's in my life and Al-anon has helped me to deal with all my sick relatives and friends. I am glad you posted and keep coming back!
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Sending you love and support on your journey always! BreakingFree
Al-Anon/Alateen Family Group Headquarters, Inc. 800-344-2666
" Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."
"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."
Hello and welcome , all of our literature applys to improving our relationship with the alcoholics in our lives , dosent matter who it is husb , wife ,brother , sister or friend . Al-Anon is about you for you . We are enablers and until we stop doing what were doing nothing is going to change . We lie for them , we believe thier lies , we cover up thier mistakes and accept unexceptable behavior over and over again , in our prog you will learn to set boundaries for your relationships , love them but not let thier behavior bring you down with them . Keep going to meetings detach with love eventually it will start to make sence you will begin to feel better. We cannot control anyone but ourselves and when we obsess over someone elses behavior we loose control of our own lives . If you have an ODAT our daily reader go to page on July 14th do what it says to the best of your ability and things will begin to change . That page and our Detachment pamphlet changed my life .. Louise
I see you have met so many of the wonderful MIP family already. Welcome here. I would encourage you to keep posting and sharing. I would like to get to know you better.
Trying to stay okay. Family is difficult, especially when noone wants to face up to reality. My brother is obnoxious and toxic - but i am just keeping myself occupied - keeping the focus on me. have found a meeting to go to midday tomorrow if i can break free. otherwise - i'll have to wait. now i remember why i live apart from them. anyways, my cat is here - having a 'turkey' dinner and i have a wife who loves me.
hope others are on the board are getting on ok. -R
I saw a few blessings in your last post. You have a lovely cat, a nice dinner planned, and a wife that loves you. Those are tremendous gifts you had in your day. I do so hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving with the ones you so dearly love.
another blessing: i'm back home and it feels good. many thanks to those who posted here - i have gone back and read the page suggested in odat - it's hard work at the beginning of recovery. somehow, i 'keep coming back' and i hope that others in my situation do too.
