The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
The following is from the website Thought For Today. It might come in handy for those of us who will be around others on Thanksgiving Day in America.
The Power to Adjust Often when we have to adjust to a person or a situation, we experience many negative thoughts. We find it difficult and tend to feel we are making this adjustment only for the other person's benefit. To adjust means to understand that nothing can be done to change a situation - it is more sensible to accept it. I adjust not because it will benefit others, but because I will benefit in the long run. This is like crossing a physical obstacle; I cannot remove it so I have to find a way around it if I am to progress
Source: thoughtfortoday.org.uk
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You have to go through the darkness to truly know the light. Lama Surya Das
Resentment is like taking poison & waiting for the other person to die. Malachy McCourt
I needed that reminder. Too often I abandoned myself and my needs in the effort tomake everyone happy. That was when i lost myself and became invisible.
i must alwasy remember that when I adjust and accept a situation, I must still take care of myself in light of this new acceptance. It does not mean I become a doormat and deny myself.
-- Edited by hotrod on Monday 21st of November 2011 03:05:23 PM
