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Dazzed and confused! My addict is a drama king everything is a drama and he wants me to jump quickly to give him solutions to problems that arise in his life. His anger and outbursts ger out of controll and I can not make him see it. Frankly I can not talk to him sober or not!
I'm assuming you are referring to your son?? I'm sure it is so difficult to see your loved one (especially a child) go through addiction and I'm not really sure what you are asking or if you are venting.
I just wanted to let you know that I"m sending love and support during this time.
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Thank you for the support Puska. Yes it is my son. I'm coming back after years away from Al-Anon. I just went to my first meeting last night. I really want to focus on myself. It so easy to get sucked into the chaos thats created by addiction. I'm working on the first step recognizing that I am powerless is so hard to do, I keep thinking if I just do one for think to help him out this time will be the time he will stay sober, but it never is.
I do understand how painful it is to have a child who is in the grips of this disease. The disease is cunning and powerful and as you know we are powrless over it. The best we can do is take care of ourselves and turn our addicted family members over to HP.
I am so glad you have returned to your alanon face to face meetings and are posting here. It is important to be supported by others who understand as few others can.
Use the tools alanon offers , keep attending meetings and live one day at a time .
You can find serenity, courage and wisdom by working this program
-- Edited by hotrod on Monday 14th of November 2011 11:21:14 PM
I too have an alcoholic son, and have felt the effects of this disease for many years, without Al-Anon I would be in bad shape. Please continue to go to meetings. I will keep you in my prayers. This website is one of my greatest resources, someone is always here to listen and understand.
In support, Oldergal
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Latina...here's a response I learned and use to use when I was in your situation with my alcoholic/addict and the ones I use to counsel..."So what do you think you should do about that"? and then hush up and watch him try to think about that question which means several things; one being "it isn't my business" and "you need to do something about that". Gosh some of them think their rocket scientist when they come up with a solution for themselves and some will even get smug about being responsible for the first time in their lives. It isn't your problem. Keep coming back and let us know how it comes out. ((((hugs))))
I am so glad you are going back to face to face meetings. I myself do not have direct experience with a child who has difficulties with sobriety. I just wanted to encourage you to continue to post here as well as go to face to face meeting because they have been the cornerstone of my recovery.
Dazzed and confused! My addict is a drama king everything is a drama and he wants me to jump quickly to give him solutions to problems that arise in his life. His anger and outbursts ger out of controll and I can not make him see it. Frankly I can not talk to him sober or not!