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Rose50


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I am new to this board; have been lurking for a while now and reading all the posts has helped. I am having such a difficult time detaching from my son. He has been hospitalized 3x in the last 6 months and after this last one, I thought for sure he would hit his "rock bottom". He already has some liver damage and was in the hospital for a week detoxing. When I went to visit he seemed very depressed and didn't want to talk about much of anything. His family, myself included, have done everything we could and nothing helps! By the way, he agreed to go to hospital emergency room as there were no beds available in a detox unit. Since he agreed we thought it was a major step in the right direction (sobriety). The social worker that spoke with him told us that he is still in denial. It's so very distressing - I am filled with anxiety, have no appetite, and am waiting for bad news all the time. I have attended a few Al-Anon meetings in the past and it does help to talk to others in a similar situation. What else can I do FOR MYSELF? I am just sick over all this.



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Tracy


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hi and welcome.

you say you have attended al anon in the past.

this disease is a life time illness it can be put into remission but never cured the best suggestion I can give you to take care of you is to go back to your meetings and still come on here.  we all understand as we to ;live with alcoholism or have in the past.

I have been attending meetings for four year snd i still learn smehting that helps me every time I go.  I ahve made some wonderful friends in al anon who I can really open up to.

 

take care tracy xxxx



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Pushka


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I really encourage you to attend more alanon meetings and get a sponsor it makes a huge difference in healing for you. I'm so sorry you and your family are going through this it does get better or at least YOU will get better and learn what you can and can't do in terms of addiction. 3 C's of addiction, you didn't cause it, you can't control it and you won't cure it.

Hugs and welcome,

P :)

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Rose50


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Thank you Tracy and Pushka - I will get myself back to Al-Anon meetings and hope and pray for my son's recovery. I know that's as much as I can do.

Trying hard to "Let go and let God."

 



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oldergal


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Rose50, I can identify with your anxiety and distress, I too have an A-son. Please go to Al-Anon meetings as many as you can, it is your saving grace, and read all the literature and books you can find, they won't take away your pain, just ease it and it will help you keep your sanity. I wish you a good connection with your Higher Power, and peace in your struggle.

My prayers are with you Rose50.

Sincerely Oldergal  



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I just want to say hi and welcome, keep coming back. I hope you are able to make it to some meetings and take care of yourself. I am sending you love and support on your journey!

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Aloha Rose and welcome to the board also...a part of detaching is letting go and letting God and I also learned and have used and been used in "Letting go and Letting AA."   In the white pages of your local telephone book not far from the hotline number for Al-Anon is the phone number for the local AA Central Office...call that number and connect with them and ask them if they have local recovering alcoholic fellows who make 12 step calls.  The 12th step reads "Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps we tried to carry the message to alcoholics and practice these principles in all our affairs."   They will do what you cannot if you ask.  White pages...AA

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Rose50


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I attended an Al-Anon meeting this week and will be going back. Also want to find a sponsor. Just taking it day-by-day and trying hard not to obsess. Thank you everyone for responding. I don't feel so alone in my struggle.



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Pushka


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Hugs,

So glad you took the first steps to your healing, keep coming back here and using the boards as a tool of support.

Hugs P :)

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