"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"

John · ~*Service Worker*~

Simple Question

oldergal · Senior Member

Love to hear your story, whether its you as a drunk or John....Oldergal

tommyecat · ~*Service Worker*~

John,

For me I'd pray about it first then get some good orderly direction from my sponsor before I proceed.

T

rehprof · ~*Service Worker*~

As you make your decision -- what is the down side?

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

Share about the simularities...not the differences was what I was taught John. I need to hear about the crawling out of the fog and finding the hand of AA/Al-Anon attached to the hand of your HP. I have also "founded" things and only after I found recovery. Remember also "To thine ownself be true."...and I'm grateful you founded MIP; truely grateful...(((((hugs))))) smile

GailMichelle · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi John,

You've gotten 4 responses already; however, I'm responding "before" readin them because I don't want to be influenced. I'm sharing with you my gut response to your question.

First, I would really like to hear your share! I'd like to sit with my husband (RA of 6 months) and listen and then share with each other our responses to what you have to say.

Second, isn't this website part of your story? I think so. Therefore, I think it's perfectly appropriate that you disclose the facts.

You seem a bit reluctant. I'm wondering why.

Take good care & I'm eager to hear your share.

Gail

GailMichelle · ~*Service Worker*~

I am just not sure if people would like to hear the story of the person who started this site, or just the story of a drunk that got sober
John

Just my 2 cents:

I really feel uncomfortable when people refer to their old selves as "drunks." I see alcoholics as people who drank too much for their own good. They are people with a drinking problem (or past tense).

In special education, we were taught to never say, "Autistic student" but say "Student with Autism." People are people. They aren't their disability or disease.

Hopfully this is read in the spirit it was written smile

Why I felt the need to express my opinion, beats me.

-- Edited by GailMichelle on Saturday 12th of November 2011 05:43:38 PM

bud · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi John,

Please share.

What the other posts said. Whatever is comfortable for you- founder of MIP, John F... it is all you and it is your story both as founder and as John... I'm truly grateful that you founded this site- it has been and continues to be my lifeline. Your story of courage and strength will enforce the positive and give hope as we all have struggles along our journey.

Lilbearz · Member

Hi John,

Please share, I am on the other side of coin and would really like to understand. It is hard to believe my AH and listen to excuses. I want to know the honest to goodness truth in why this disease has such a hold on people.

LB

canadianguy · ~*Service Worker*~

Please share - doesn't matter to me from which perspective, with or without the header...

Tom

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

I don't know how it happened or where it went? I just read a post from you from 2008?

You admitted how you had a bad bout here and backed off for awhile. You beared your soul. ?? I know how it was as I got the brunt of it. It was a very hard time for you!!

You shared that MIP went on and was guided by our Hp's. That you didn't have to be here. you were inviting everyone to come and meet on Nov. 8 the ten year reunion!????

anyway in answer to the "simple" question....(c:

So in saying that I agree it would be good to talk to your sponsor to really look at your motives. To make sure it is a healthy thing for you to do.

I would only put your nic. Then it is a share from our member John not anything else.

As you know it is more about what do you want from this, what are your motives. We want to make sure it is only a share from our hearts, not trying to prove to others how great we are. Humility is what brings us here. Baring our hearts and souls. Which you have done many,many times!

You are in the AA part of the world and the Al Anon part of the world.Is this appropriate for an Al Anon group? Myself I appreciate what everyone shares if it is done from their heart.

So there is my simple answer. haha I hope you do find it is honestly from your heart! That is so wonderful you stood up and shared. Took a lot of humility!

debilyn who has stuck here big time.

pineapple · ~*Service Worker*~

John, Please share your story.
¨shouldn't I let it be known here that it is a share by the founder and webmaster of MIP, or just leave that off the intro, and just post it as a share by John F.?¨
Ummm, can't you do both? I mean, both sides are a part of the whole. Either way, whatever you decide, I hope to hear your share. By the way, I also want you to know how very thankful I am for this site.

likemyheart · ~*Service Worker*~

A Simple Answer: If a novice were to follow the links it wouldn't take long for them to find out you are the founder and webmaster of MIP - it isn't a secret, its a fact. Any post by "John" I read knowing that it is a post by the founder and webmaster of MIP - so, save the novice time by pointing it out from the beginning.

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi John

I would love to hear the tape Please post it It will present a complete view of this disease and the HOPE we should all live in.

Thanks so very much for establishing thes great Board --- it has truly helped to save my sanity.

RLC · ~*Service Worker*~

Please share your story from where you were to where you are, as founder of MIP, or as John F, it makes no difference. As pineapple stated you are both. HP holds the answer.

RLC

Lindaoakford · ~*Service Worker*~

As a newcomer, I think under your name on the left hand side, it should say 'founder'.
Anything that is posted after that is 'you' as the person you are.

I read everyones posts even if they have newbie written next to them, that does not mean they know nothing, just means I haven't heard from them yet. I don't see this site as a 'status' of where we are, we all slide around all the time.

I like to hear from the 'old timers' when they struggle and when they have it right, and how they get 'back on the horse'. I like to hear how newcomers may have agreat idea that I haven't tried yet.

My personal opinion is that you share as John, but I do believe you should have 'founder' under your avatar.

youfoundme · ~*Service Worker*~

I support whatever decision you make John. Prayer and talking with my sponsor always help me.

glad lee · ~*Service Worker*~

I suggest using the program as your guide and posting as John F. "Anonymity is the spiritual foundation... ever reminding us to place principles above personalities" is what comes to mind. I was taught it doesn't matter "who" we are and what we "do."

As was mentioned, people can put two and two together if that's necessary. Then it's like, let go and let God.

I look forward to your story!

The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level.

"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"