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sirchef · Member

recovery

Pushka · ~*Service Worker*~

Hugs,

Yes (you will recover), I choose to see recovery as a life long journey. We are never done evolving or changing how we view things. We're not made to remain at a stand still even emotionally. I feel like I have lived 5 lifetimes in the past 3 years. How I view codependency differs from the norm of is it going to happen over night heck no, however I can still choose how I want to react in any given situation. So yes at some point I hope not to have to think so much before I act, it will be more automatic vs a thought process. Will my tendencies still be there yes, I feel like my committee/monkey's will at some point not be at the forefront of my thoughts. I can make better choices, it takes a lot of baby steps and a choice of I'm sick and tired of being sick and tired so I am doing something. Hey if nothing changes then nothing changes. I know with the help of alanon I am soooo much better off than I was a year ago and I would even go as far as to say 3 months ago. It is a process and alanon has been food, healing and exercise for my mind and my soul. I am responsible there will never be a time that I can just go back to my "old" ways of thinking or acting.

Hugs P :)

Breakingfree · ~*Service Worker*~

I am working my recovery program and I already see I have recovered some of my dysfunctional tendancies to a healthier perspective. We hold ourselves back in our heads and choose our own path and journey. I can choose to stop and think rather than react. I can hand things over to my HP that I can't change or control, before I let it drive my mind into a crazy all day spiral and rant and rave about it to anyone that might listen. It comes down to us, that is why it is our own recovery and why it really works if you work it. It comes down to us refocusing on self and making changes that we can. Another slogan I love "If I keep doing what I have always done, I'll keep getting what I've always gotten" I for one want something altogether different and am getting a taste of it now and it keeps me progressing forward. I am not just merely surviving this life, but growing and reaching out. I don't think I have ever loved myself so much or thought so highly about me. I am sending you hope, courage and love on your journey!

RLC · ~*Service Worker*~

sirchef,

"I know pretty much that remission is the best I can hope for."

Remission is defined as...slowing of a disease....lessening of something....or the release of something.

If we use and practice our slogan "Let Go And Let God" the slowing, lessening, and release of our wounds, betrayals, and hurts will be lessened as we continue our recovery. We have all been effected by this disease and we can't change the past. My Higher Power can't change the past. But with his help and guidance I am able to let go of my resentments (wounds, hurts, and betrayals), realizing at the end of the day I am the only person being effected by them.

We will always be in recovery, it's an inside job, a one day at a time job that takes practice. The more we practice the easier it gets because over time it becomes a habit, and the habit becomes a way of life......It all starts by "Letting Go And Letting God".

HUGS,
RLC

youfoundme · ~*Service Worker*~

I am totally with one of my favorite teachers from this board, RLC. Without some of his words, I would never have *gotten* what I now have, a program I work every day. A serenity and light that I hang onto. As we start to feel a little better, we see that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. The journey continues as I learn to use my new way of living every day in all my affairs. So many have come before me and I remain teachable and humbled by what this program has given me, totally and utterly for free. By the grace of God, I am healing and feeling better every day....

pineapple · ~*Service Worker*~

(((sirchef))), you've gotten some great ESH from some great folks. I agree with all that's been said and have little to add. But I will add this - you didn't get where you are overnight, and you will not recover overnight. But if you work your program, focus on you, and trust in HP you can and will recover. Slowly, but surely. Thanks for your share, I'm glad you're here. : )

pinkchip · ~*Service Worker*~

You will recover when you realize that most of those hurts and betrayals were not done to you but for you. When you are truly at peace with who you are, it will not matter how you got there because it all added up to the person you are in this moment.

GailMichelle · ~*Service Worker*~

Yes, you will recovery if you continue to do the work.

I have found the recovery comes in degrees. It's on-going.

I also have found that when I realized that people are doing the best they can, just like me. I have hurt others without meaning to. I did it out of not knowing what I was doing.

I forgive others and myself by not placing my focus on our mistakes that have had negative impact.

abbyal · ~*Service Worker*~

The answer to your question lies in the steps , work them ,finish them do this with a trusted Al-Anon sponsor , steps 4-5 is where healing began for me but my biggest struggle was with step 3 once i came to terms with three my fear was gone and i was able to honestly look at the inventory steps .. I have not forgotten the hurts from the past but can honestly say they no longer run my life . I am able to share them with others but the pain is gone .. dont stop now . so the answer is Yes you can recover .. Louise

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