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kris10


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So I have been wanting to get a membership at the YMCA but I've been avoiding it because I know that my As drug dealer goes there.... THIS PERSON I CAN'T STAND WITH A PASSION.... He is by far the snakiest person I've ever met. This is my As "best friend" for years EXCEPT for when he was sober or in treatment or is just broke.... GRRrrrrrrr.. He is a person that puts on this "I am so wonderful, good guy, don't know what you are talking about, I've never ever sold or did any drugs in my life" sortof guy....Which drives me ABSOLUTELY NUTS... Why?? I'm not to sure myself... He will call and ask me how my A is doing and yada yada pretending like he is worried too and wanting to help ONLY to turn around and sell him heroin... When this so called "best friend" knows that his "friend" has cirrhosis and a huge addiction problem.... He only wants his money.... Sick sick person...

Soo my son (6 years old) wants to join the YMCAs basketball team.. I'm in there getting him registered and guess who I see... Who walks up to me with a big smile and so nicey nice says hi to me.... My whole day just dropped when I turned to see who was talking to me... I felt myself holding back the rage.... I put on the same fake nice smile and said hello back....

On my way out of there I picked up the form to enroll myself!!! I WILL NOT let on person wreck my day... Or what I want to do.... No matter if I think they are the scumb of the earth.... ha ha just had to throw that one in there...



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kris10 wrote:

On my way out of there I picked up the form to enroll myself!!! I WILL NOT let on person wreck my day... Or what I want to do.... No matter if I think they are the scumb of the earth.... ha ha just had to throw that one in there...

 Well done!

Sending you good thoughts and support.



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Well done!! My A's dealer recently passed away, and all I've heard was what a saint he was all week. I'm trying to handle it with the grace you did. I'm just trying to keep my opinions where they belong. :)



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well done
Unfortunately for me, my husband gets his gear from a mate also. But this person is a mate.. even when my hubbie wasn't smoking..... it doesn't help now they spend time together and both smoke!!!!
I don't like him, but I really like his wife.. she is a just lovely... what she is doing with him I have no idea.
I have slowed down this friendship somewhat lately, but that bloke is my hubbies 'fishing partner'

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You don't have to interact with people you don't like. It's great that you didn't get into a screaming fight in public, but it is okay to tell some people "Don't talk to me."

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Pinkchip U are so right.. Unfortunately this person would still never get it.. Just 2 days ago he had text our phone looking for my bf... I just kept it simple and said no hes not home. He then asked me if i was mad at him... Like it matters or something?? We are not friends.. I just simply said " hey lets keep it real. We dont like each other. It is what it is." Then i see him today and just even the way he says hi to me is like he is just rubbing everything in.. Just icky.. Ugh... O well

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I wonder what it is about US that keeps US from saying things like: I don't like you, you provide drugs for my H, you drag him down and make a profit from his addiction...? What stops us from saying that? I hate my ex's so called friends - they aren't real friends, they don't show up to help when the chips are down; they won't be there when he is in open-heart surgery, there to hug me as I go through waiting to see how his surgery went; I really hate the guys he calls friends because I KNOW they will not be beside him when he needs them. god I hate that they buy him another beer, they give him cigarettes (a very strong passion of mine - anti-smoke) and he chooses his association with THEM over being with me. But that is just it - HE chooses, HE makes the decision - not them, not me.

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kris10


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likemyheart..... Oh I've told him... and many other dealers as well... It's only this ONE of them that I swear likes to just urk me....

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What stops us for calling the police?



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kris10


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I suppose the same thing that stops us from leaving...

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Good job Kris!  It is o.k. to "act as if" and walk away.  I have found no matter how much you dislike someone it is never wrong to treat someone with a kind hello and walk away.   

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thing is....if you didnt say hi...he might say somethig embarrassing about your AH infront of your son or your friends...thats what they do...especially if they are owed money, they take it personal. yu are right....some people are just snake characters..we all lose ourselves in addiction....but some more than others, now what i mean? say no more......i agree you shouldnt let a snake put yu off the basket ball thing, and yu are wise to just say hi and quickly get away as fast as poss. these kinds of people- they are loose cannons- you dont know what they will do or say next.

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Great job! You don't have to talk to him :) I found that I didn't have to answer texts or calls if I didn't want to either. The stronger you get the more easier it will come. They say Fake it til you make it... HUGS

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