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Very Very Tired


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I realized a few weeks ago that I sometimes make excuses for not getting to a F2F meeting. If my AH is out of town or sick or whatever, I use that as an excuse not to go to my home meeting. If AH isn't home or available, I don't have anyone to drive the kids to their evening activities.

I finally admitted this excuse to my sponsor.

Now that I am enforcing my "no driving the kids" boundary with AH, I can no longer use my AH as an excuse. I created the driving boundary, so I am responsible for figuring out how to get to meetings, especially now that I so desperately need some F2F ESH.

So, I pushed myself outside my comfort zone by asking other people to help with the kids. I am rearranging my activities and the kids' activities so I can be where I need to be. I have no excuses. I have to get my body in the door and my backside in a seat.

It is easy to get to a meeting when life is easy and simple. But, when life is difficult and challenging, I still need the meetings. I have to put my recovery first. There is a meeting in my area everyday. I have no excuse for not being there.



-- Edited by Very Very Tired on Tuesday 8th of November 2011 12:53:05 PM

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Pushka


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Hugs,

Your post made me smile because I'm chairing the home group meeting tonight. We do a round robin deal whomever wants to take it can, .. anyway, I said at the last meeting "I will. It will keep me honest." Meaning .. I am responsible for getting to the meeting tonight regardless of how cold and rainy it is outside .. lol. It's been a little more struggle to get to meetings because of the later hour, dark earlier and so on.

Have a great meeting and I agree, there are always options even if it means getting out of the old comfort mode and asking for help.

Thanks for the share,

P :)

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pinkchip


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This is a great share. Keep up the good work and the follow through!

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amills4294


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I had that situation last night. I really wanted to go to my home meeting - I needed to go but I gave in to circumstances and didn't make it happen. I didn't take care of me. but I will next time!!

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GailMichelle


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I've been finding excuses too lately.  It's been easy 'cuz my husband has had knee-replacement surgery.

Thanks for your honesty.  It helps me to examine my excuses.

Today is a new day - we can start over!



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tommyecat


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VVT,

Great job owing up to your sponsor.  Honesty, open mindness and willingness are the cornerstones of recovery.  I hope your meeting goes well.



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Breakingfree


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I like this post and owning our actions and being aware of things that don't help us to grow is what my program is about. I self sabotage in different ways and acknowledging them first and than change them it is so amazing and awesome to see and feel. Al-anon has helped me grow through so many fears and walls that I never though possible. We are all so worth it! I am sending you love and support on your journey!

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