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Ive had it. I do not understand why the liquor store around the corner from my house continues to provide my husband with alcohol on credit! He's not working so he has no money to pay. He's been over three times already today and it's just after 1:00. So on his way back from his last trip over, I turned him around, walked back over there with him, and told the staff that I'm his wife, he's an out of work alcoholic with no means of paying off his tab over there and that it would be best for them not to continue to serve him because it's bad business practice to give away your products without getting paid for them. The manager started to say "as of tomorrow, we'll..." I was shocked - I cut him off and said "tomorrow? How about RIGHT NOW???" Before I got angrier, I left and he actually went back in and apologized to them! Anyway, I yelled at him in the street and he was more embarrassed than I was. I feel empowered even though I know it's usually not a good idea to drag other folks into our problem. But whatever.
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--Mare
Grateful member of Al Anon
"Live in and for the day, each and every day, starting right now."
Janet Geringer Woititz, Ed.D., "Marriage on the Rocks: Learning to Live with Yourself and
an Alcoholic."
Thanks Rosie. It's really sad but it felt good to get some of that out and being productive about it! Just went in to check on him in our room - our bed is lofted about 5 and 3/4 feet up and apparently he fell out of bed down the ladder and is now sprawled out on the floor. No blood, no bumps, but he trashed our lovely wicker laundry hamper. Lame.
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--Mare
Grateful member of Al Anon
"Live in and for the day, each and every day, starting right now."
Janet Geringer Woititz, Ed.D., "Marriage on the Rocks: Learning to Live with Yourself and
an Alcoholic."
oh cripes, i must admit- i am quite astounded at that liquor store too- i think in most cases- selling alcohol to an A makes most people miserable. Its a heart braking disease.
It's astounding to me too. I don't get it. Not my problem right now though.
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--Mare
Grateful member of Al Anon
"Live in and for the day, each and every day, starting right now."
Janet Geringer Woititz, Ed.D., "Marriage on the Rocks: Learning to Live with Yourself and
an Alcoholic."
It's astounding to me too. I don't get it. Not my problem right now though.
Right there big time!! I like the simplistic view of Forrest Gump .. stupid is as stupid does .. if they want to extend credit it is their issue. I understand alcoholics are sick .. I DO NOT understand that scenerio. It's like a drug dealer who gives out drugs free at first and then jacks the price only this is reversed.
I hope your AH is ok, he is going to be sore when he realizes where he is at dang that's a fall!!
Have a lovely rest of the afternoon, hugs again P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
I'm sad that he is missing out on this beautiful day. It's a shame. But at least he's safe, albeit on the floor.
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--Mare
Grateful member of Al Anon
"Live in and for the day, each and every day, starting right now."
Janet Geringer Woititz, Ed.D., "Marriage on the Rocks: Learning to Live with Yourself and
an Alcoholic."
I was a drinker with drinking in both parents families. I drank to different degrees for 40 years. I thought I was a decent person because I was popular and willing to help others.
How could I think I was a decent person? I was selfish, controlling, judgemental and my own HP. All this gave me a very clouded opinion of who I was. My drinking friends seemed to think this all was ok!
Today I cant help wondering, what if the majority of people treated the "A" based on "A" behavior. What if people joined together against wrongs like your situation? I know it would not help all, but I do know some could wake up.
It is an abuse of the good people that are efected by the drinker, their kindness and good intentions.
There are sooo many forms and personalities involved in the "enabling" process and I no longer stand outside of it and shout I don't understand. Today I understand and try to pass the message as best I can when I can. I also use to use the "Al-Anon" handshake when she continued to drink and use and when others use to enable her, falling prey themselves to this cunning, powerful and baffling disease; Sticking that index finger out and wagging it up and down trying to protect the little girl I married who had the raging disease when I did that. I was forceful and loud and at time profane and still...she drank and she used and it affected everyone it came into contact with. Guarantee they will remember you and guarantee they will remember his condolences for what happened. They will feel remorse for him.
As much as I tried and as often it didn't change until I did. She continued until she was done and I didn't accept ownership for any of it. Thanks Al-Anon. ((((hugs))))
