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Control issues .. much?


Holy cow last night was a blast.  My AH and I took the kids door to door trick or treating in our town that is not as easy as it sounds.  We live in the country and that is not going to happen out here .. lol.  For some crazy reason I never thought about driving to another area to go door to door.  We've done trick or truck, boo at the zoo and many other things the kids have always had a great time. So much fun in fact I've been informed by my youngest we WILL be going door to door next year.   

My control issues totally kicked in at the beginning of the night.  I had to really laugh at myself.  I've struggled with my AH about halloween, while it's my fav I have even dressed up with the kids and gone places my AH is highly uncomfortable.  He's loosened up over the years, it's obvious he gets uncomfortable.  It's def how he was raised and Halloween is the "bad" holiday. Normally, he works and is out of the whole deal. 

He drove .. LOL .. that was probably a mistake for me I started to feel car sick.  There was zero wrong with his driving it was me, totally on me.  All of a sudden I'm looking over the hood of the car and there's no steering wheel that threw me.  It's been a LONG year of driving to say the least.  Anyway, he starts driving up and down the streets and won't stop.  He is TOTALLY infamous for doing this .. when we have taken car trips in the past .. he will drive through places I want to stop all in the name of getting to the destination even if we are only staying for 10 min at the destination .. he can't help himself.  I got impatient and finally just said STOP the car we are getting out.  LOL.  It was like if he kept driving Halloween would be done and over.  I don't know if he felt uncomfortable or what, he loosened up as he saw more kids and their families.  It's like once he gets there and relaxes it's all ok it's getting there that is so hard for him. 

I had a terrible time of wanting and reaching for control.  Once the car stopped I was fine.  We weren't out for hours I think it wound up being an 1 1/2 total time.  We probably should have eaten before we left.  The kids got home so late from school I was more concerned about getting them in their costumes and going.  I think it's interesting how different situations trigger different things in each of us.  I really struggled last night not driving and not being able to stop when I wanted to stop.  He struggled with not wanting to stop and letting us all out .. lol.  Regardless of our individual issues we all wound up having a wonderful time.  The kids brought their candy haul home, ate dinner and we watched some special halloween movies we have. 

As far as I think I've come little things remind me I have soooo much further to go .. LOL!

Hugs P :) 



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Great share Pushka :) Glad you had a nice time! I struggle with control too, and am learning to let go of everyone. Its no easy task, but I like how I feel when I do it :) I can only control me, and how I react... how I do things. Good for you for your awareness and wonderful positive share!

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Sounds like a wonderful evening!!! So glad y'all had such a fantastic time!!! My AH took his daughter out last night (I had to work) he was taking her door to door in a neighborhood, I suggested an event taking place at a shopping community closer to her mom's but when he said he wanted to do the door to door thing I simply said have fun. It was hard not to tell him why I thought he should use my idea but I realized that it would have been me trying to control the situation.

Feeling car sick is the worst!!! I'm glad he stopped the car and everyone was able to enjoy the fun!!!

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So glad you had a good evening despite the driving issue. As far as "he will drive through the places I want to go, all in the name of getting to the destination" .......... I think that's a 'Man' thing more than an 'Alcoholic' thing! Would you guys out there agree? LOL
Anyway, glad you got to make a happy family memory!

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