The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
There have been some posts recently about being in a relationship and feeling totally lonely.
That's exactly how I feel.
I can be intellectually stimulated when I'm at university (I've just started a PhD).
I've started going back to Jiu-Jitsu after a 4 year break and I'm absolutely loving it. A real mental 'break', a time of total concentration and removal from the world. I go once a week for an intense 2 hour work out.
Then every day I come home and I know my partner will be home too, she'll disappear upstairs and do the secret drinking in the bedroom, thinking I won't notice her under the influence.
I'lll interact with our daughter yet inside I feel totally lonely and isolated on this planet.
I'm so sorry you are going through this right now. It's not always easy that is true.
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
jitsuka, I can SO relate to this. I live in Central America, in a rural area between two small villages. I swear I've gone days without speaking more than a few words to another person. My Q (qualifier) is here in body but not present in spirit, if you know what I mean. Yes, it is crap. But we have to try and break out of the isolation. I'm glad you have your daughter to interact with and your ju-jitsu to get you out and around other people. And there's always this board to come to for comfort and support. Hang in there buddy, you're not alone.
I understand feeling lonely and isolated. Once I began attending Al-Anon meetings, I began to feel less lonely and I certainly broke out of the isolation box that I put myself in.
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You have to go through the darkness to truly know the light. Lama Surya Das
Resentment is like taking poison & waiting for the other person to die. Malachy McCourt
This disease does tend to make us isolate and sit in the suffering of it all. One of my favorite slogans is "Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional" that said it all to me. I used to dread going home to my A. So now I go about my life and really live. I go to 2 Al-anon meetings a week, meet with my sponsor one night, go to a bible study one night and meet with my girlfriends for lunch or dinner one night a week. It was important for me in my very early recovery to get out and live life and now I am even enjoying it. I am enjoying my 2 kids more and even my jobs. I am sending you love and support on your journey!
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I felt very isolated for a long time. I found I had to throw myself into the program, connect, get a sponsor, work the program. Most of all I had to get busy on takign care of me.
Certianly in the end I felt more lonely in the relationship than out of it. Getting out takes a while it isn't an overnight deal.
