Plugging along - Al-Anon Family Group

Mlkiss75 · Veteran Member

Plugging along

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

The meeting rooms of Al-Anon, sponsorship and the literature are miracle makers for the fellowship ML...Don't know if you are attending and hearing those suggestions from others and that is what worked for me when I finally gave up and reached out for help.

Plugging along up hill isn't the same as doing it on level ground. ((((hugs)))) smile

Pushka · ~*Service Worker*~

Hugs Mlk,

I know things aren't easy and they are neither cut and dry every situation is different. I believe in the program and I know without it I wouldn't be where I am today. LOL .. some days are better than others however over all it's better than constantly being super high or super low. I like the middle ground.

Sending you love and support, it does get better.

Hugs P :)

Mlkiss75 · Veteran Member

Thanks - I believe in the program too. I feel bad for my husband's father because he doesn't have program and he's floundering around trying to figure out what to do. Life is not easy, that's for sure.

youfoundme · ~*Service Worker*~

Hey there, just wanted to offer support and hugs. Take care of you :)

nyc018 · Senior Member

Dear MLK - I so relate to the feeling of the AH "going nuts" - I use the same term when describing how mine was in the midst of his madness.
In addition to alanon lit, there's a great book "Getting Them Sober" by Toby Rice Drews. It just really hits the nail on the head - no nonsense and comforting at the same time. I read it front to back and continue to flip through it a lot. There are 4 volumes, I'd start with Volume 1. It's an easy read and very helpful.
Sending support,
nyc

Mlkiss75 · Veteran Member

Thanks everyone. NYC, I just got a book called "Marriage on the Rocks..." or something like that and I can't get through it. I'm having an emotional issue with reading the literature. At the end of the day, no matter what is going on, I just want to lose myself in fiction. I know it's important to read this stuff - I read the One Day at a Time and the Courage to Change and have some other books too, but I am an avid reader and just want to dive into whatever nonsensical garbage fiction I can get my hands on! I'm going to make a concerted effort to read more of the important stuff though - even if just for 15 minutes a day.

Thanks again for all of your support and thoughtfulness. Greatly appreciated!

Marianne

Pushka · ~*Service Worker*~

I'm learning for me it's important that while yes I read my alanon lit and books of that nature it's just as important for me not to over think and over analyze and remember I'm more than my AH's issues. Whatever they are I need time for me too.

Hugs in support, P :)

Mlkiss75 · Veteran Member

You got it, P! So our plans with another couple to go to the movies this evening got canned - I'm actually contemplating taking myself to the opera! It's been a LOOOONG time since I went and there's really no reason why I shouldn't go!

Pushka · ~*Service Worker*~

Now see you'd have a partner in crime in a HUGE way I've always wanted to go to an opera. I've been to Miss Saigon, I would love to see something else live like Carmen or Madam Butterfly!!

What a wonderful way to spend the evening. I'm soooo sending you support to go and I would SOOOOO go with you, so take me in spirit!! :)

Hugs P :)

We watch a LOT of PBS here at the house and listen to NPR as well. So when there is something of cultural base such as an opera and it's the weekends the kids and I will watch or listen. I wanted to share because my son is such a funny little guy says to me .. Mommy I want to be an opera singer!! I am thrilled .. LOL .. I know it's a phase however it's something that he has been exposed to even if he doesn't understand. I'm debating about taking him (he asked to go when he heard me talking about it and knows what it is) and my daughter to the nutcracker this Dec. I took her when she was in 1st I believe and we saw the Russian Ballet perform. It was wonderful!!! I'm all about the theater .. sigh .. I missed my calling I should have won an oscar. :)

-- Edited by Pushka on Friday 28th of October 2011 10:55:15 AM

nyc018 · Senior Member

Enjoy the Opera...if you are going to Lincoln Center, I find the area to be one of the most glorious and uplifiting places and my mood instantly becomes positive when I'm there...hard to be upset when there is so much activity, culture and life around you. Enjoy!

Mlkiss75 · Veteran Member

I ended up working later than I'd hoped but took myself shopping then home to listen to "La Boheme" on our surround sound! Then cooked an awesome dinner while watching an episode of "Boardwalk Empire." My husband called pitching a MAJOR fit - he's been working with his father since 10:00 this morning - and he had been drinking. I totally didn't let him bring me down! I sort of feel guilty that I'm in such a good mood while he's miserable. But I'm watching episodes of "The Big Bang Theory" and laughing out loud. A good night, in my opinion.

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

This is so sad mLk.

It is horrible that you are newlyweds and this happens. Again we have to take one day at a time.

Do what we can that we have to and leave it and do what we want and need to for us.

I relate in many ways. My AH was a strong recovery guy for years. we married, he had a medical relapse. I fought for years with Al Anon to hang in. But to no avail. It about killed me.

I hope you can go to meetings, read and learn. keep coming, miracles do happen.

love,debilyn

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