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I'm new to Al-anon. My 27 year old son is an alcoholic. He got a DUI back in February
and was devastated...Said he would never drink again...but about a week later....
it was back at it. He lives with us...He's started back to school and is doing well...but
drinks a 12 pack every night. He doesn't work and we can't get him to get a job...
He goes to school part time and helps me with one of my businesses...but it 's sporatic
and so...he really doesn't work. We can't get him out of our house...If makes me so upset...angry...when he drinks. I resent it. He talks trash to me and my husband. I go and find the beer sometimes and pour it out. Doesn't help...he just goes and gets more. I don't know what to do. We don't have the money to put him in rehab.
He did tell me about 2 weeks ago...when he had reached that third level that he had a serious problem and he couldn't do it on his own. I gave him information on an out patient facility and AA meetings and some other general info...but he's back drinking and says it 's my fault etc.
He's driving when he shouldn't be driving. It's terrible, but I hope that he gets caught. However...then he would lose his place at school and the money. What is a mother to do.
My father was an alcoholic. I probably need counseling for that. I'm 59 years old. Probably have issues because of that and really don't know it. My older brother was an alcoholic and eventually he committed suicide...He had some other issues too.
Can anyone offer me some advice? I 'm going to go to my first meeting tonight.
Hi and welcome! I am so glad you are going to attend a meeting. I grew up in an alcoholic/addict home and married an A. When I found meetings and a sponsor things have changed in me tremendously. A great book to read is "Getting Them Sober" by Toby Rice Drews. When I need ESH, I come on here for support and it helps to read other posts to see how other people are working there recovery programs. I am sending you love and support!
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Hi ((((PH))))) and welcome. I'm so glad you're going to a meeting tonight and glad you found this site. So sorry for all you are going through, but you've found the right place here, for sure. There are so many caring, wise, and loving people. And all of us here understand exactly what you're going through. please let us know how your meeting goes and feel free to come here and vent anytime. Thinking of you tonight, and hoping you find a bit of peace.
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Aloha PH...welcome to the board and if'n you have already gotten to the face to face meetings of Al-Anon welcome to the AFG also. Your share is really typical of the disease of Alcoholism and addiction. Scroll back on previous post from others to see how typical it is and that you are not alone with it. There is solid hope and help in the Al-Anon Family Groups in your area and here at MIP. There is very valuable experience, strength and hope here for you. Please keep coming back. In support ((((hugs))))
Hello and welcome to MIP. I just wanted to welcome you as so many others have to the forum. I do so hope you will continue to post so that we can get to know you a bit better. I think you will find there are quite a few members on this board that understand your problems as few others do. Do stick around and get to know us better. I am just so glad you came.
