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slipping and sliding as if on ice today,, my mind is all messed up, I'm feeling yuky, my brain knows better but my feelings are all yuk...
I wonder if "junkies" miss their drug of choice at the same time are well aware of how using only caused them pain... I feel sick tonight for sure!
Good thing is my brain seems okay even if my feelings are not,, a big improvement over the past!!
This discomfort is still better than when I was with my ex. A.
Truth be told I just don't know what to do with myself!!!
I told myself today that I would give it 4 weeks, exercise, take my medicine, MAKE MORE MEETINGS IN PERSON, sleep and eat right and do my work.. putting one foot in front of the other as best I can.... and then see how I feel.
I have no idea what I meant by that.. no idea what the 4 weeks represents?
But I would like to feel some kind of direction by then, if not before...I don't even know what I "wish" was different...
yes I do actually, I wish I felt I could be as energetic and committed to building a life with someone (even if that someone was just me??) as I did with my ex A.
I'm behind on some responsibilities, I know if/ when I catch up then I'll feel on top of the world again,, when I get down it just snowballs and I don't feel like doing the very basic things I need to do.. to catch up... but I must force myself,,,
I need consistancy.. i NEED TO GET OKAY WITH IT JUST BEING ME here,, I don't feel like I really know how to be on my own right now,, but I do in my brain, because actually I"ve always done all the stuff anyway.. it's just my feelings way out in left field tonight...please pray for me..thanks for letting me wine!
You have some good ideas, exercise, take your medicine, eat and sleep right. My favorite and the one that always worked for me........ MAKE MORE MEETINGS IN PERSON. I've never come out of a f2f meeting "not" feeling better than when I walked in. Never forgetting HP's guidance always plays a big part in solving any problem I'm facing.
MIP, f2f meetings, and HP.......you don't have to be alone.
making more meetings really made a huge difference for me during the times where I feel the most out of control between my head and my heart. The nice thing is there are always more meeting available. I know the more meetings I went to the more consistent I read the better I feel, plus keeping the focus on me keeps me busy. I find I have more energy to do the things I want to do.
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
You know it is o.k. to slip and slide all over the place. That is what I picture my face to face meetings, my sponsor and this very board to help act as a bumper to nudge me into balance or help me find my center.
hey glad.........so much identification from your post, its only been two weeks for me and ive been up and down like a yo-yo.....im still in touch with my ex because theres one more thing to tie up and then Ill be free to sort my head out. Ive been to f2f meetings kept myself busy and every day seems a little bit better. Im working hard on gratitude right now and my self worth because right now I dont feel confident and I want to get myself better before I enter any other relationships! I will pray for you and for myself so that we can get better and we will with the help of a higher power and this programme.
I always believe your higher power only gives you what you can handle at any given time and although sometimes painful its growth.
Take care of you.....Jules
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jules
god grant me the serenity, to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.....keep coming back....:-)
