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KeepingFaith


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I'm sad tonight. At work so sorry for short post but feel like hell. Saw my xAb at a stop light. Amazing how much love I could still see between us. He texted me to ask how i was. It makes me miss him even more. And all I want is our life together :( But that can't be until he does the work he needs for himself. I'm asking HP for strength as all I want is to talk to him. But I know he can't give me what I want ATM until he is him again. I'm sad, angry, lonely & bummed. Really need some esh to remain strong as I feel so weak...

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Lindaoakford


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coming on here is a great thing to do.

Do you have a mate you can call? Sometimes I find I lock myself in my office or the toilet at work (away from my area) and just cry.

Grieving is ok.


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I can relate from my own personal experience. Yes, I can imagine the hurt feelings. Connecting with caring Alanon friends and sharing about it is what helps me. Yet, I cannot deny the grief and pain I feel inside me. Keep sharing every chance you get. Crying really helps me also. Sending you big hugs.

 

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KeepingFaith


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Thanks Linda & Hawaii! I'm on break. Fortunately was busy tonight! Now it's quiet & I'm gonna work hard to not get into my own head. It helps so much to know theres wonderful people like you guys out there giving me support and empathy. It's truly comforting. I so badly want him to call me and say he's in treatment. And I think that's the hardest part of what I'm going through in this. That he's still doing his thing - no help as he is still in partial denial and trying to do it on his own. The best but also worst part is that he knows that the best thing for us is to not talk or see each other as he "doesn't want to hurt me". And I can't rationalize with someone whose brain isn't capable of rational thought processes. Ugh & sigh... I just miss the man I knew & I know if I try to push him it will only turn him away. It's like time is passing so slowly. I know it has to be in his time, but how do I get him off my aching heart to do my thing without wanting him?

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(((keeping faith))) I understand the hurt you're feeling. Of course you miss him, of course you want him. It's a scary, hurtful thing to get through. And you will get through it with time. You're on the right track, you know what is best for you and you're doing it. I find when I'm being consumed by sadness it helps me to keep busy. And to do things I like and want to do. It also helps to come here and share. Keep coming back! Sending you hugs and lots of support.

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