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Hello, I just assumed I should introduce myself and state my reason for being here.
I made the classic girl's mistake. I was raised by an alcholic father and then I married a man just like my daddy.
I have been married to hm for 15 years and with him for 17. We do not have children together but he has been the father figure in my sons lives, however good or bad.
I am here because as many who love alcoholics and addicts, I have come to one of many in a long history of breaking points. I no longer have the tolerance to cope with this alone.
I am a self sufficient and independant person and my husband is a high functioning alcoholic. I hope to be as much help here to others as they can be to me.
I'm glad you found Miracles In Progress and you don't have to go it alone anymore. This board is filled with members who like you have been effected by the disease of alcoholism. I can relate to a high functioning alcoholic, my wife comes close.
Keep coming back. You will find it's a great feeling not being alone in the disease anymore. Welcome to the family.
well, at least he is high functioning...lets count our blessings hey! I too went from an alcoholic parent to an addict boyfriend- looking back theres no way i could have done different- i acted only with what skills and confidence i had at the time- somtimes we got to give ourselves a brek havent we. you sound yu are at the end of yur rope with it- life is hard- when you need to make major changes and those changes are like huge mountains...all we can do is try- thats all we can do. xxxxxx
I think you are in the right place. Welcome to MIP. I can completely understand where you are coming from. In my family we have quite a few high functioning alcoholics.
As RLC said, you don't have to do this alone anymore. You are amongst true friends who understand your problems as few others do. Please stick around and get to know us awhile. Feel free to participate in the disussion. We would really like to get to know you better. I know that in sharing on this board with others the difficulties we walk through it not only lightens our load but will benefit another person who is in the same place.
Thank you again for introducing yourself to the group. Welcome home!
Welcome, Soul! I, too, was raised by an alcoholic and then married an acloholic - two of 'em, in fact (not at the same time though - haha). I don't consider it a mistake, though, it just works out that way a lot of the time.
I am glad you're here! Living with an addict is overwhelming, and I got very isolated for a really long time. I didn't tell anyone what was really going on - sometimes because I was still in denial and believed deep down that if I didn't say particular words, they didn't have any truth. And partly because I didn't want anyone to judge the alcoholics in my life...although I was plenty capable of passing judgment, it made me fiercely angry when others did.
Since I found recovery for myself, my life has completely changed. Yours will, too. No need for isolation anymore!
Thank you all for such warm welcomes! Just coming here is a huge step for me. I have a psychology degree that I have only used to author books. I work online which means I am always at home, and this leaves me a lot of time to think. I am sure I don't have to tell anyone here what those types of thoughts lead to. Intense frustration and more than a bit of bitter cabin fever. I am glad to be here, I don't plan on going anywhere, and I hope I can return as much help and comfort as I gain here.
I can identify with your history and background. An education in psychology and too much time to think is my enemy and friend depending on the time and situation. I turn it to "try" and help others and I have learned over a long period of time to hone the self-analysis to be more productive and to listen to others some as much as I try to dispense info or help.
Anyhow, you sound insightful, educated, and expressive. This just further goes to prove that Alanon folks are not in their situations due to ignorance and it's not even poor choices cuz hindsight is 20/20.
(((soul))) Hi and welcome to MIP. I'm so glad you found this place. You are NOT alone, you now are part of a new family that understands what you're going through. I look forward to hearing more from you and hope you will share your journey with us.
You will find you really are not alone. I've spent the last several years on again off again with a high functioning addict and sometimes I think that high functioning piece makes it ever that much more difficult to deal with!! I'm also in a classic intergenerational pattern. Argh! How did that happen?! BUT, I have found great counseling, books, this board, and Alanon! I have only been working this for a few months and feel HUGE, POSITIVE changes in my life. I hope that you will find much of the same comfort, insights, support, encouragement to get through these tough problems. This is a wonderful group of people and you are most welcome!
