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I don't know where to begin. Should I start with when my brother was 17 and started drinking and I knew, I 'xxxx' knew he had this problem even when I was 14?
Well, he's 30 something now and it's the same old story. He gets drunk, he has DUIs, he does drugs. I walk around with a knot in my stomach because I know that this will not end well. My mom is denial my dad doesn't really do anything or talk about it. My other brother enables him.
I'm just sad and I can't concentrate. I jump everytime the phone rings. I cry because I've already lost people to this disease - even the people who lived with it weren't there, like my grandpa - I never knew him because he was drunk all the time.
-- Edited by canadianguy on Sunday 16th of October 2011 03:49:44 PM
I welcome glad you found this site. You are in the right place. You do not say if you have attended any al anon meetings, if not I suggest you find your nearset one and try aleast 6 meetings. We will nt give advice on this site and we can not get your brother sober. However we can share our own experiences what worked and did not work for us as we learnt how to take care of ourselves. Alcoholism is afmily disease it affect everyoe who cares for the drinker. The pain in my stomache have gone now and if you keep coming back you will start to feel better I can promise you that. People who have not lived with this disease do not understan we have all been where you are today. Hope you can find a meeting.
Seeking out alanon will help you identify and magnify the healthy parts of your life. It will help you to let the disease of alcoholism rest mostly where it should (which is on the alcoholic). In an ideal case, the boundaries that you can learn to set (and feel okay with setting them) will help you feel sane and have better odds at helping him anyhow.
try not to let him suck you into that dark hole- stay in the light! its a terrible disease and really does suck you under i think its good to concentrate on your own life and get some blinkers on- it doesnt mean you dont care it just means you are fulfilling your right to a healthy happy life, you are entitled to not get sucked under and to have some happiness. xx
Hi and welcome here :) The best thing you can do for you, is to try alanon meetings and even ACOA meetings. Alanon has helped me so very much and I feel so much better than I did even a few months ago. I go to meetings, talk to my sponsor, talk to other alanon friends, and do things for me to feel better. I hope you find that alanon helps you, give it a try. Take care of you and live in the now :)
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It sounds like you have received some great shares here. I hope you are able to find some Al-anon face to face meetings near you. Keep coming back. Sending you love and support on your journey!
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I hope you will consider finding a face to face alanon meeting. I think you will find there are many people there who have had sibilings who suffer from the disease of alcoholism. It is suggested that you try six or more meetings before making a decision as to whether or not alanon is right for you.
Please keep coming back and posting. It is a pleasure to have a chance to get to know you better.
