How to come to terms with the fact that my AM is killing herself? - Al-Anon Family Group

Mylife · Member

How to come to terms with the fact that my AM is killing herself?

glad lee · ~*Service Worker*~

By allowing her the dignity to live her own life. By allowing her to find her own path to God.

Surrender is NOT EASY, it's hard to let go....

That's why I keep my seat parked in the middle of the fellowship. I sit with others who are walking this hell with me, and "we" do it together.... "we" is the first word in the 12 steps. We all have choices. I chose not to drown in the insanity, to stop fighting the battle I cannot win. To let God love me through the fellowship, and then, I learn to love and tolerate my alcoholic... I become what Higher power wants me to be.

Here is an early recovery prayer that helped me so much, I memorized it and would say it repeatedly... take what you like. And keep coming back because "we" help each other by sticking together. ((hugs))

God,
today is Your day.
May I be who You would have me be.
May I do what You would have me do.
May I go where You would have me go.
And say what You would have me say.

And dear God, it is my deepest faith,
that as I step back,
YOU shall step forward.
As I surrender,
YOU shall take divine authority.
May Your will be done in all things.

Amen.

-- Edited by glad lee on Thursday 13th of October 2011 12:44:30 PM

rosielee · Senior Member

Glad lee- thats wonderful what you just said XXXXXX

this is very painful for you. i just second glads post- its perfectly put-
xx

pinkchip · ~*Service Worker*~

You have a lot of choices over what you could do but are powerless over what she does in response.

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

Hon it is always horrible. I have watched so many people die who were not A's! Addiction just takes so much longer!

I had to learn to take care of me.Eat right, sleep,nap, go to work, care for the animals. Keep up my faith, keep my relationship with HP strong.

I am NOT with my ex AH and I think of him every single day. Sometimes I check the obits in the newspaper online!

So not being there to literally see it, makes no difference for me.

The only thing we can do is keep our bodies, minds and spirits as healthy as we can. And just love them, just how they are.

sending you love,debilyn

flopadopilus · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi there and thanks for sharing. My Mother is absolutely killing herself with drugs and food and now that I have been working an Al-anon program and see why I married an A and became aware of so many things about my childhood, I am now gaining the tools to deal with the emotional baggage that comes with this life. I go to weekly face to face Al-anon meetings and found a wise old sponsor who I meet with once a week for my step work. I come here when I need to balance my thinking. I read Al-anon books and literature. I listen to people who share their ESH and I know that my growth and health have improved greatly since coming to Al-anon and MIP. I am sending you courage and support for you on your journey!

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