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hotrod


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Reading Jerry's posting on the statement "It Works if you Work It"
started me thinking What does "Working It " mean to me?
 
 
I came up with the basic tools that I have developed over the years that have become my routine practice that will keep me sane and my program fresh
 
Here is what I do to "Work" It
 
I read my Courage to Change and ODAT each morning
I call my sponsor each week
I attend at least 3 meetings a week
I speak to my sponsees each day
I attend one step meeting every week and participate in the study of a step or tradition a week
 
 
I truly live my life under the principles of the slogans:
 
One day at a time, First Things First, How Important is it, Mind Your Own Business, Keep it Simple, Focus on yourself, No gossip or Criticism
 
 
I Mediate for at least 15 minutes each day
I do a 10th Step each night,
 
Say the serenity prayer any time I am tempted to REACT
I read and post on MIP
 
 
I am not perfect and do not do all this perfect--but I have a program outline that guides me each day.
 
I would like to hear from others who are "Working" it.


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Tracy


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Hi Hotrod,

great question.

I go to three meetings a week

I read my odat and courage to change every morning

I am looking for a new sponsor

I come on here

I talk to my Hp through out the day asking for guidance

I am doing some step work

I do not use the phone as much as i should

I attend conventions

Do service

Share with the newcomer in mind at meetings

but must admit although I am doing all this I am struggling to put it into practice sometimes, I just keep coming back and trying xx hugs tracy xx



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Pushka


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Hugs Hotrod I agree great topic!!

I go to 2 - 4 meetings a week (always 2)

I read my books, not daily

I call my sponsor 1 to 2x a week

I'm working on step work

I come here

I use the phone a LOT

I am not isolating anymore

I go out at least 1 - 2 days with other alanon sisters

I pray 3x a week (progress not perfection)

I do talk to my HP daily (to me there is a difference between prayer and talking)

I do service within the group

I need to share more with newcomers in mind at meetings (I like that one)

There are a couple of things I'm struggling with at the moment I wish I had more insight to, it's really progress not perfection and even if I feel my steps sliding I can center myself. I don't feel so out of control all of the time and that IS progress.

Hugs P :)



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GailMichelle


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Good question.  I was hoping more would respond by now.  I'll take a "stab" at it.

I strive to do these daily:

*Meditate in the morning & evening

*Practice yoga & exercise on the treadmill

*Read a variety of literature (a lot on spirituality)

*Attend Tuesday Night Al-Anon group

     - Group's secretary

     - speak at nearby rehab facilities to clients & family

     - Facilitate Newcomer's Meetings

     - Seek out newcomers after meeting to answer questions

* Mentally generate Gratitude Lists several times a day

     - contemplating journaling - but procrastinating

* Seeking a sponsor

     - feel as though I've done Step 4 numerous times with my

       previous counselor.  But realize I need a sponsor now.

* Examine my motives

* Focus on my breathing when my mind tells me crap : )

 



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RLC


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Hotrod...Great topic,

* I attend two meetings (Monday and Tuesday) each week. I get to the meeting 30 minutes early to make coffee for the ladies and refill their cups during the meeting....something they don't receive at home....they say.

* I go to our Step Meeting on the first Saturday of every month.

* I stay in close contact with my sponsor.

* I come to MIP several times a day. As a moderator, helping to keep MIP a safe place for newcomers is very important to me.

* I've worked the Steps twice and use them in all my affairs to the best of my ability.

* Thanks to this program and lots of practice, I take care of myself first, allowing HP to take care of my AW.

* I use and live by the slogans of this program.....couldn't do without "Don't React".

* Because of the nature of my business I have been able to plant the Al-Anon seed many times over the last several years and hear the results in the voices of customers after they became members of the Al-Anon program.

Thanks for the topic Hotrod.

HUGS,
RLC








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Hey this is great Hotrod, love it!

Here are things I am doing (or trying to do) to work it...and not just talk the talk:

**Go to at least 1 meeting a week (alanon or acoa)... my kid's fall sports schedule hampers this, but I at least do go when I can

**Read ODAT, C2C, and As we understood...every day, and sometimes find a passage that isn't for today that helps too.

**Call or Text my sponsor, and my alanon friends every day (if I don't, at least one of them will text or call me)

**Using some slogans that help like Let Go and Let God, Live and let live, Don't React, Remain Calm, Easy Does it, Keep it simple and Quit Taking it personally....

**Doing a mental gratitude list, powerless list (thanks Tommye) and working on journaling the good and the bad

**Remembering that its progress not perfection, to not beat myself up when I slip (almost a daily occurance) and to not get on my qualifier's case if he slips up....

**Coming on MIP as much as I can, responding, being a welcoming person to new comers (at least trying to) and remembering what it was like when I first crawled in here...

Thanks all! Great topic!

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Love this idea of how I am actively working a program! Here it goes:

I go to a meeting Wednesday afternoon and a Saturday morning meeting a week. (That is all that is offered within 2 hours of me.)
I meet with my sponsor every Monday night and we do my step work together.
I wake and read Courage to Change, Hope For Today and sometimes In All Our Affairs or The Language of Letting Go (depends on what I need for my 3rd book)
I call my sponsor when I feel a spiral coming on. (I use the phone when I need to)
Log onto MIP when I feel I need to reach out or just read and connect with others.
I attend bible study Wednesday nights and we talk about God handling our lives and it helps as well.
Read my Al-anon slogans board when I need a little perspective.
Before bed I read between Getting Them Sober, Perfect Daughters, or Codependent No More. (Depending on what I need again)
When I get into a full spiral I have learned to hit the treadmill to burn my anxious or negative energy.
I hand things over to my God whenever a person or situation needs it. (I quit trying to convince walls to become doors!)
I pray and meditate to get myself into balance. (This needs work.)
I try to keep the attitude of gratitude and of a survivor not a victim. (Each experience has helped me become who I am and that is a good thing)
I try not to judge or criticize anyone including myself and practice Live and let Live.
I try to take care of myself first and to give from my overflow and not from my reserves!

All of this is what I set out to do each day. I am not perfect and I try to be diligent, but not always am spot on. I am a work in progress and worth it.
Thanks for the topic and keep up the great work everyone!!!!







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