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It has been a while since I have posted but I read the posts daily it helps me go through the days! And if course I go to face 2 face meetings so I got my al anon daily IV dose to pump me up! Anyway we have been officially legally and physically separated for 3 weeks and despite the emotional rollercoaster I feel better and better I truly admire all of you who live with an alcoholic partner we each choose our own paths. We do see each other once in a while for our daughter school events and I can now observe and feel detached and be grateful for al anon tools. It's amazing to notice how much the sarcasms the blaming the manipulation and the active drinking had affected me. But I can detach from all of this now with love. Quite a concept 4 weeks ago I was going crazy!day by day I seem to get stronger I never feel alone maybe lonely at times but nothing like times of peace for myself it's priceless really. I can reflect on the past weeks and accept I made the right decision for myself and daughter. Between her and me it's not going smoothly but not reacting had become my new way of living and it's an adjustment. One day at a time. Thank you to all of you for the ESH without it I would be lost in my thoughts maze and spiral. Life is good its a precious gift and I am worth it !
Thanks so much for posting. I also recently separated. Nothing compares to the quiet peace I experience at night now. I waited until I was ready and now I know I could never live like that again. Best wishes.
Thank you for sharing. I really related to the not reacting. It was a challenge for me when I was new. There is a reading in Courage to Change on PP 267 that struck me between the eyes. The excerpt " If I am Always Reacting, I am never Free"
Good for you for taking the action and doing things differently. It shows it works if you work it and you are.
Thanks so much for posting. I also recently separated. Nothing compares to the quiet peace I experience at night now. I waited until I was ready and now I know I could never live like that again. Best wishes.
How did you know you were ready?
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