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Lindaoakford


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Hi guys
i am on here because I am trying to take care of me for a bit.
My husband is home for the weekend.  He is wanting to fix a broken bit on the car.... it has been broken for about 3 months...
today he just really wanted to get to it.  there is no reason.  He was supposed to go and buy a part to help fix it with.. He didn't.. he still really wants to get the job done.. today...

I asked if he wanted me to help.  He said no its a one man job. 

Isn't it strange that he wants to get this job done on his own on the very weekend that there is some 'good pot' in our home (which a friend left), and he will be off doing jobs around the house that he doesn't need my help with!!!!

what a coincidink!!!

I looked at him and said I would bring him a cool drink in a little while cos he will be outside in teh heat.... thats when he said "Well, I was thinking about having a smoke while I did the jobs"
My response.... "I was waiting for that..... I will see you in a few hours when it has worn off a bit"

I went back into the house, did a couple of jobs I wanted to do and came on here.

I do not feel 'bad' or annoyed or angry... it is what it is.....



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Oh Linda i am so sorry. I know this is not what you want. But you are doing your best to learn to accept it as is. Maybe in time you will see he is very sick, that addiction is such a tangled disease.

You may start feeling some compassion. It is sad to me that they cannot enjoy life for real. It's not enough to go anywhere or even enjoy being home with out drugs.

When my A was on program he would even say how he wished he loved everything as much as I did. How I would be excited doing nothing but walking on the beach. He said the disease took all that away from him.

This was after the surgery.

I am guessing you feel lonely? I did sometimes.He was never really there.  Now he is no one I know.

I hope you still feel loved by him. He is not his disease.

hugs hon,debilyn



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((((((Linda))))))....Stay away from the heat and just use the hugs.  Great acceptance practice.   smile



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When my qualifier has drank, I can choose my attitude. If I choose to be cranky, there is always a fight. When I choose to do things for me, I like you say here, feel similar. It is what it is, he is not his disease... neither am I :)

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