My husband will be home from rehab in a week - Al-Anon Family Group

MsTonya · Newbie

My husband will be home from rehab in a week

Lindaoakford · ~*Service Worker*~

there are meetings here online, and there is the chat room too if you like that sort of thing.
Read what others have posted here
If he has been ina rehab environment perhaps they may have some information on counselling or Al Anon meetings for you.

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

Aloha Tonya...best research on Al-Anon is done from inside of the face to face meeting rooms. Sitting and listening with an open mind and getting and reading literature.

You can find meetings in your area from the hotline number in the white pages of your local telephone book. There will either be a live voice or a recording to listen to.

Come back here often also. ((((hugs)))) smile

GailMichelle · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi & Welcome!

I tried to deal with my alcoholic's alcoholism for 26 years of our 36 year marriage. I resisted the suggestions of going to Al-Anon meetings.

In hindsight, if I had to do it over again, I'd head to the nearest meeting place. I'd go with an open mind and willingness to listen.

I didn't begin meetings until after my divorce. I began back in March and attend 1 meeting per week. It's the best thing I've done for myself.

My ex recently got out of rehab for the 3rd time; he is back here with me and doing great. He attends his AA meetings, while I attend mine. With our programs, we our turning our lives and marriage around.

Al-Anon has the solutions/answers for you if you're open to them.

Glad you're here and hope you keep coming back here as needed.

RLC · ~*Service Worker*~

MsTonya,

Like the above members I suggest finding an Al-Anon meeting and starting your recovery. It's the best thing you can do for yourself. Living with and alcoholic be he active or sober is chalanging. The support and understanding you will find in the rooms of Al-Anon will offer you the help you need to deal with those chalenges. You husband made a choice to seek recovery, do the same for yourself.

Welcome to Miracles IN Progress, keep coming back....your not alone anymore.

HUGS, RLC

abbyal · ~*Service Worker*~

For me the best way to support our alcoholics sobriety is to have our own program of recovery , if you are in the us or canada call 1-888=4alanon between the hrs or 8am = 6 pm eastern time they will give you a contact number for your location or the address of a meeting near you . Easy does it but please do it . Sobriety is not easy for either of you , every thing changes so we have to change too with both of you in recovery you have a chance .. Louise

-- Edited by abbyal on Thursday 29th of September 2011 01:17:30 AM

tommyecat · ~*Service Worker*~

Ms. Tonya,

For me face to face Alanon meetings were central to my recovery. The meetings for me where exactly what I needed to keep my focus off the alcoholic. My brain would automatically go to: what are they doing, what are they thinking, are they having a bad day, what can I do to help them. The best thing I found to help the alcoholic as well as myself is to go to meetings and learn as much as I could about the disease of alcoholism. For me what really helped was to read the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. Also, many people here recommend the book Getting Them Sober as my sponsor did for me.

Going to meetings were so helpful and healing because for one hour I can listen to alanon members in the program share their stores and focus on me for the hour. I found it helpful to talk to people after the meeting and go for coffee or have lunch with them. It was just the mental break I needed to begin focusing on myself and learn how to detach with love from their alcoholism so that I could learn how to live again.

In support,

Tommye

Pushka · ~*Service Worker*~

Ms. T,

Hugs, you have gotten some wonderful ESH. I totally agree these boards are fantastic, however for me the real deal is going to the meetings and physically getting out of the self imposed isolation, while reaching out to others who were also thriving while living with someone else's addiction. I have found hope, friendship and confidence of living the day to day with my AH. In my case he is not in a program of recovery, however he is so watching me and who I am becoming. I can tell you night and day from this time last year. I wouldn't be here without the wonderful support of face to face meetings as well as the MIP board.

The thing that is different about the face to face meetings for me vs the boards is hearing someone share their story. I can read it, it's just not the same as hearing it. Once I heard it though and then I could read it, it made so much more sense to me. That's just me, it does make a huge difference.

Hugs P :)

rrib · Senior Member

Jerry F wrote:
...best research on Al-Anon is done from inside of the face to face meeting rooms

ditto

This web site has phone #'s to help you find meetings in your area http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/

maresie · ~*Service Worker*~

Glad you are here. This is a great great resource. Another is the book Getting them Sober.

maresie.

hawaiilover · Senior Member

By all means, you will need a face to face meeting. I've been in your shoes and know that feeling. Find the nearest meeting and share your feelings. That would be the greatest gift to self. My Ah has been to rehab at least five times. I could not have lived with him without a program and moral support. Glad I decided to try Alanon. Keep coming back.

Hawaii

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