Last nights meeting was awesome!!  Loved it!!!  We are working out of the book Pathways to Recovery and it's just an amazing read and share time with some amazing people. 

The friend issue is basically coming to a head exactly the way I saw it coming.  My AH wanted to look like the good guy only to have his good guy plans backfire on him.  His friend is all ready and waiting to buy a ticket and my AH is now avoiding him like the plauge.    His friend likes to push buttons so he made a comment that he noticed my AH was taking Friday off (I just found out Sunday) were we going on vacation?     I laughed and said I was unaware of any vacation.  Eldest daughter has a dance and a sleep over.  My agenda this weekend is completely on those events.  (I did not mention that I knew about any plans my AH had made with him, that is on my AH) What AH has planned I really am not aware of at this point.  Well that must have shocked him because I get the please have AH call me or text me.  Ok fine. 

I did question why I needed to relay a message that did kind of bother me.  The friend said my AH is not answering his texts.    Soooo .. whatever, I did my part I waited until I picked my AH up from work and gave him a message of you need to text or call so and so.  The verbal dance that ensued was very interesting.  I just responded with either uh huh or I don't know. 

Apparently they both now know, I'm not available and again if this was something that my AH really wanted to do that would be different.  Other arrangements would have had to be made anyway.  I'm not chauferring around two grown men to a high school home coming dance.  I'm an odd duck, I ain't that odd. 

I feel like I handled it the best way I could, I didn't engage with the friend (as far as you can't come down, or it's not a good time, or AH doesn't have a license).  My AH created this situation he can fix it or not, the ball is in his court.  I was very nice to both parties (well I thought I was .. LOL).  I didn't nag at my AH, I didn't should him, I just let it all hang out there in the wind.  I also did not cover for him or lie for him either. 

Soooo .. again I know what I'm doing Friday night.  I'm also going to be praying a lot this week .. LOL .. good grief AH home all day on Friday I'm not going to know how to act.  The kids are home as well teacher conference, sooo I could be screaming for the hills by the time that day rolls around!

Hugs P :)