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Holy cow, I have to strike while the iron is hot when it comes to my domestic goddess challenges.
I had the house looking soooo lovely about a week ago and I'm soooo glad I took those before and after pictures because I keep going back to them. It has made such a big difference to be able to see the before and after. Even in my own confidence it's just so huge. The family unit in general is operating at a higher level.
There have been some hiccups for me emotionally, I'm trying to stumble through a couple of situations. I'm doing ok. I can totally tell what I want to do and what I need to do are two totally different things .. LOL. Ironically, my house started spiraling out of control again. That made me do a small hmmm .. to myself and take a look at what was going on. I'm really, really, really having to put a padlock on my side of the street, if I can see the other side I'm really fighting myself not to step on over to the side of the street with no light on (the darkside it beckons and I feel like Darth Vadar is waiting on the other side). Staying on the street with the lights on is what I have to do. It's not that the dark side is scary it's just why would I go there when I can see what I'm doing on my side of the street?
My mantra for the week is Do It Now (really more Strike While the Iron is Hot). I know not an alanon saying, however for me this totally addresses my procrastination issues. I have such a long way to go .. at least I have hope I can address them in a positive way instead of feeling defeated all the time and beating myself up. I just wind up feeling awful about myself and that's not how I want to live.
It is also a good feeling to know I don't have to do it the same way everyone else does things. I have choices in how I do things they are neither right or wrong, they work for me.
Hugs it's a beautiful fall day around here and I'm so grateful for the alanon program, P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
It is also a good feeling to know I don't have to do it the same way everyone else does things. I have choices in how I do things they are neither right or wrong, they work for me.
Hi Pushka,
This excerpt from your post plucked a little chord in me. I have noticed that I still try to compare myself with others, particularly those persons who seem to have it more together than me. I realize it and then remind myself there are "different strokes for different folks" and that life would be boring if we did things all the same. I try to remind myself that my way adds spice to life and lay off myself.
Happy house cleaning Perhaps you'll write a book someday on your experiences that will entertain others as well as teach. You never know.
take good care
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You have to go through the darkness to truly know the light. Lama Surya Das
Resentment is like taking poison & waiting for the other person to die. Malachy McCourt
Aww Pushka, keep on keeping on... I know for me when I don't take care of me, everything falls apart, and then I reach out or someone so wonderful (hmm maybe you?) reaches out to me, and I feel a whole heck of a lot better. And I have to remember to not isolate myself. I am as sick as my secrets... HUGS! Keep coming :)
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-youfoundme
Let go and let God...Let it be... let it begin with me...
@Gail, I think it's funny in a ha ha weird way, I have spent so much energy trying to make everyone else think the way I do, that I have completely limited myself in my own thought process and get stuck because I can't see the forest for the trees. I did not know I even had the option to think differently than I do. Maybe my thinking (yes it was, and still can be .. lol .. was a tad distorted). It's been my ah ha moment of the day today and so totally awesome that I had one of those. I'm challenging myself to learn something new every day .. something my wise sponsor said at our meeting Sunday.
@ YFM, Isolation is an unnecessary evil. Having quiet time is totally different I enjoy that tremendously. Isolation is a different animal together. I'm so grateful to have people like you to learn from and remind me that I don't have to live in isolation.
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
My housekeeping can slip and slide all over the place. This Saturday I ended up sleeping for 12 hours plus and did not get to the housekeeping part. I feel so refreshed and rejuvenated I'm glad I did that!
LOL .. Oh Tommy i would LOVE that!! I'm still going it's been a struggle at least things are evening out. I need an extra burst of energy again .. and today it's just not happening! the weather just makes me want to hide under the covers. Taking the kids to school today I was really wanting to stay home .. LOL. Good thing they have a short week!!
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Perhaps you'll write a book someday on your experiences that will entertain others as well as teach. You never know.