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Pushka


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Which translates to I def need to get to a meeting, thank goodness there is one tonight. 

There's a lot going on at the moment and I have concerns over how my mother is choosing to grieve.  I'm all about everyone needs to grieve in their own way, (I worked at a funeral home) there are issues though and right now until grandma's ashes are dispersed I'm going to wait before I address it.  That will be next week, so I will give it one more week and then her and I are going to have to have what I call a "Come to Jesus" talk that if her behavior continues, her competency is going to be called into question.  Yes, it's that weird. Once it's pointed out I think she will adjust herself. 

I'm hoping this is her way of trying to get attention from me.  Unfortunately, I can't be out there with her right now and can't get out there until more like November.  I swear the stuff she pulls I could just write from my life vs my imagination because my imagination could never process some of this stuff .. lol.  I've had a good laugh over some of it.  It's more horrified, morbid kind of laugh vs ha ha this is out right funny.  Although based upon my sense of humor I have had a good gurgle of laughter come out .. LOL. 

I'm also watching my AH do a dance of getting his license back we are less than 30 days at this point.  I haven't said a word he keeps acting like he's going to pay money and it's going to come back that day.  There's fines, paperwork that all need to be filled out not to mention copies of court stuff, I'm not saying a word.  Plus if it's not mailed out we are going to have to go to the real state office and deal not just a satellite office to deal with things.  It's not my issue and I'm ok with that part.  I really do need him to get his license back though and I've gated up my side of the street at this point.  LOL .. it's really been a challenge to stay there.  This stuff with my mom right now is coming to a head and I just need to know I can go out there if I need to. 

In all of this stuff going on I am def feeling a urge to act out in past behavior ... that's why I am feeling so twitchy and itchy today.  I don't like that feeling and I def don't want to go down that path it's just not for me.

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(((Pushka))), I'm glad you brought your itchy, twitch self here to share :) I hope it helps some until you can get to your meeting tonight. I'll be thinking of you today.

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Good read--enjoy your meeting tonight. Good to know when we need them...Like they say, "when u know u need a meeting get to one, when u think you don't then run to one".

 

I hear u on grief work & being a t a distance can be very challenging--u do sound like u have a good focus on staying on your side of street & stepping back to give things time. But it is a lot of work trying to stay mature and rational in irrational situations.

 

Keep it up,

Luv 123

 



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oh Push, My thought was things sound so unreal and so off balance for you. For me when things don't seem normal I do normal stuff.

Can be just everyday stuff, doing dishes, nice clean sheetsl BUT I like more the thought of take a dog or the dogs on a run, go to a movie, feed ducks, watch people at an airport, go somewhere pretty and read my book. Stuff just for me that brings me to that moment.

I also invite you to say the Serenity prayer, it always put things into focus for me. I am sorry your mother sounds confused. Myself knowing how hard it is to lose someone in death, a person can lose their sanity for awhile. With many that is just what happens! Some, in time heal up. In my experience, I always share, do not allow anyone to tell you its been enough time, or get it together.

Just like any wound they heal differently, take different amounts of time!

I know if someone would have confronted that I was not grieving correctly I would have lost it big time! I would have been ok with, do you need some help with your feelings and thoughts?

Just reread your post. Well you know your mother. I am sure you will find the right things to say and do! I saw both my grandparents go well a bit looney tunes. From my experience with always being the sober one, always not doing drugs, I go the great position of "talking someone down."so I learned to listen and not argue, not push, Thank goodness they both came back to being them again!

Not sure if I am helping at all! lol I liked your saying you gated up your side of the street, padlock and all?

hugs, hugs, debilyn



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Girl I hear ya!  I feel like I need a meeting too.  It has been a long weekend. . . . . .



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Pushka


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Thanks all,

I did make the meeting and I'm so glad I went late and all. It was about step 9. I'm not there at step 9, it's just good to know I do practice some of this even though I don't know what it is or didn't call it a step 9.

It was a fun evening I literally just walked in the door .. a couple of us got together after the meeting and had some good laughs and of course solved world hunger and peace reigns in the world.

Hugs P :)

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i hope it goes well with your mum- i would go careful- as she is in grief and your words about competency could potentially blow things right up and make things worse- im only saying this because i did the same thing recently- to my mum- i questioned the amount and type of pain kilers she was taking- and it just blew up- major big. i wished i had never said anything. in the end i think she changed them - but i do wish i didnt rush into it- the way i did.

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