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Lindaoakford


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HI

I am back from my 9 day trip to my family of origin in Perth. 

there was not hassles at all. 

Normal family frustrations but thats it.  I was worried about my sister wanting to 'party on' and arguing with my Dad and my husband getting into the 'party scene'.

None of that happened.  I felt my HP wiht me in many ways and lots of little things fell into place for me.

My sister seems to have ceased substances and is on antidepressants.  Her birthday went well and she wasn't intoxicated at all, nor was anyone else.  Most unusual.  But I sighed a massive sigh of relief.

I actually started to enjoy being with her for the last day or so.  I may even ring her more often now she seems more stable. 

My husband and I had a lovely first anniversary.  I was still having dreams and nightmares about us arguing and his smoking, but it was nice to have him to myself for a couple of days without any substance misuse/use.

We will see how things go now.  He has friends arriving from interstate tonight that are all smokers so I doubt my 'break' will last long but it was nice. 

I feel like we connected again a little bit.

Anyway, I haven't been on here much for about three weeks and work is going to get busy in the coming weeks.  I really feel what I have learned here helped me alot and I am still reading and engaging more with my spiritual beliefs.

Thanks, I knew you guys were with me even if you had forgotten where I was hahahaha.

 



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I'm so happy to hear that your visit went well. Welcome back! Oh yeah, we're always with you - just like you were still here with us. :)

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So glad to hear that your trip was exactly what it was suppose to be a break!!

Hugs P :)

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I am so glad it went well! Maybe it  will help you to see that taking one day at a time is what works. We worry about future things so many times that never happen.

What a relief yes?

Sending you hugs! love,debilyn



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hey thats good that its going ok for you..good to hear- thats nice. some healing is working its way all round.
(those dreams arent nice are they- i get them too from time to time bt thankfully its rare)

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Welcome back Linda, it is nice to see you here again.



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Glad you came back to share with us how it went :) We were always with you :) And you with us. I actually didn't remember you were gone and sat here yesterday wondering where you had gone off to! LOL... Anyway, glad you are back and keep coming :)

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Lindaoakford


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Thanks guys
didn't take long to get back into the swing of things here.
We have a couple staying with us, friends from his life before me, they drove 1500km and are staying here for one night and a day before flying out and then coming back for a day before driving home.
Ofcourse all three of them were stoned and the conversation changed so I went to bed. No point in being in their company once that has occurred.


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Hi Linda and welcome back, my thought upon reading your post is, hmmm, I wonder if her family noticed any difference in HER?

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I am glad you left the situation when it was no longer comfy for you. When I started doing that, after awhile it became natural and no big deal. I wanted to live with him, so I learned to change how I looked at things and how I detached from them.

Hey linda I too was lonely sometimes as I wanted him to be in a calm mood, quiet just watch a movie with me,even drunk. but sometimes his diseases thoughts were so dumb I could not listen.

to me it deadens a persons heart when they use. I am an emotional person and its how I gauge things. Its hard for me to be around marshmallowed people! lol

Gotta tell you I am glad you are such a part of us now. Few seem to stick long. I am not sure what makes that so.

I know this has been home for me for so long, and my support system in many things, I don't feel right with out it.

((((((((Linda))))))))))



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Welcome back!

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