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I am so excited my AH got his furlough today, he got 5hrs supervised furlough. But supervision was with his lawyer.Yeah!!! So he took care of his things at college, was able to put money in the bank. Then he came home to shower and the landlord stopped over and my AH was able to tell him what happened. I didn't have to. Also our lawyer called to see what the waiting list was and its only a couple of weeks!! We were told a couple months but really its only a couple of weeks. So hope fully he will be in rehab soon and then I can actually count down the months.
And my HP answered my prayer from when we were in court!! I got my proper good bye. Our lawyer left us alone for a hour and I got to explain to my AH how this effected me and how I felt. He held me and let me cry and he cried with me and talked from his heart to me. I cried for a good 10 mins and he just held me. It felt so good like a relief, I feel a weight lifted off of my heart. Don't get me wrong I still hurt, but its easier. Even when we dropped him off I didn't cry.
He called me tonight and we were able to talk without me crying which left him in a better mood and me.
I know I need to still take care of myself during this time and I am. I will have bad days but I will also have good days as I find myself again. And with this time away from each other I think our marriage will be better.
And I do hope over time I will be able to help others on this site as all of you have done for me. So nice to know that others know how I feel. And maybe someone reading my posts will also be encouraged by my story.
I am so happy for you, perhaps alanon, expecially face to face meetings will continue to help you to take care of yourself and therefore be in the best position possible for you and your marriage.I'm so glad you are here and I really truely mean that. Please keep coming back,
It works if you work it- and I feel in my heart you may very well be someoene who can share their miracle with others in the future as you tell of your happy and successful life.
I'm glad you had some good things happen today. ALso glad you got to spend some time with your ah. It sounds like the two of you have made some small progress. Just remember to keep taking care of you!
Thanks Glad and Pineapple. I will continue to take care of myself. I know I have an uphill road ahead of me. But with this site F2F mtgs and my HP. I think I can do it.
¨And I do hope over time I will be able to help others on this site as all of you have done for me. So nice to know that others know how I feel. And maybe someone reading my posts will also be encouraged by my story.¨
That's the great thing about alanon and this message board. By working on our own recovery and sharing our journey we get to help others at the same time. A lot of people read these posts and get support and encouragement although they don't post themselves. We may be helping others even though we never get to know about it. Thanks for sharing, I'm glad you're here.
I really hope for a great future for you both. I hope this is his rock bottom and he is done and will really give AA his all. This is alanon though so the focus would be best on you and what you are going to do with your life and your choices to better insulate you from the disease regardless of his drinking and it's consequences.
So glad things went so well. I hope you will continue with the face to face just like pinkchip said he's going to drink or not drink the question becomes what are YOU going to do. It's such a true true statement. The 3 C's always right there, didn't cause it, can't control it, can't cure it.
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
I invite you to take one day at a time. Also face to face meetings will make things even better for you and your A.
The more you educate yourself about the disease the better. I know from experience that this is the time I have seen the most manipulation.
Day at a time is what saves me. I hope he does well in rehab and gets out and does the 90 meetings in 90 days and cont. in AA. They have open meetings in AA that you can go to, to learn.
Being on a recovery plan will help him to cont in recovery as we know, it is not a curable disease, and relapse is a part of being an Addict.
I hope you do keep coming during you and yours journey, it is for a lifetime!
hugs,debilyn book,"Getting Them Sober." By Toby Rice Drew!!!
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jmanning, HUGS!!!!!!!! When I first came here and people suggested to me to try some meetings, I didn't want to go, I thought I didn't need it. I went but didn't really listen. I shared but didn't do any of the work. I talked the talk... I didn't walk the walk. I stopped meetings and this board. I thought I didn't need this alanon business. Then I figured out that I really do need alanon. This program works when we share what we are doing to change with each other. We can only keep our serenity when we also give it away. I am learning I can be happy, joyous and free no matter what my A decides to do. I still slip from time to time, but with my work here at face to face meetings, with my sponsor and readings, prayer to HP, I am changing little by little. The changes in me are encouraging changes in my A. Keep coming :) HUGS! So glad you are here sharing and updating!
-- Edited by youfoundme on Wednesday 21st of September 2011 07:55:02 AM
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