"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"

Woodenships · Member

Sad today

canadianguy · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi there... sorry you're feeling sad today, but the good news is (and there IS some good news) that you have begun to 'break the cycle', and are starting to choose recovery - for yourself. Within our program, you'll hopefully find some strength in many of our slogans - "One Day at a Time" immediately comes to mind - which will help you focus on the things that you can, indeed do something about, and not so much on those other things....

Even the simplicity of "enjoying and staying in the moment", rather than worrying about our future - you DO have your A today, so why not embrace today? I realize the future seems scary, but it really doesn't do us any good to spend too much time worrying about it.... One Day at a Time.... or one hour.... or one minute..... whatever makes sense to you today....

Take pride in what you are doing for yourself today, and give yourself a hug...

Take care

Tom

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi Wooden,

I too hear your sadness and pain. I am sorry that this disease has a foothold in your family and am so glad you found us. It does sound as if you are super busy so if you can come on line and post, join our on line meeting or participate in the chat room.it will help to lift your sadness and you will begin to feel better.

Breaking the isolation, connecting with others who are walking the same path, learning new l tools to live each day , reallly helped to change my inner attitude.

Keep sharing You are not alone.

youfoundme · ~*Service Worker*~

Hugs to you, I hope you can find some meetings or the online meeting which is at 9pm at night, its a chat style. Keep coming ;) HUGS!

maresie · ~*Service Worker*~

Glad you are here. You don't have to do this all alone. I would really recommend reading the book,Getting them Sober.

All of us come here overwhelmed.

All of us have bad days.

You can connect here with people who know what you are talking about, find support, care and love.

I hope you will choose to stick around for a while.

Maresie.

Bettina · ~*Service Worker*~

I understand what your going thru, have been there....

Its difficult to live in the moment when we are going thru challenges.

My only suggestion is to continue with Alanon, if you can go to a face to face meeting,
arm yourself with knowledge and concentrate on your own recovery.

Believe me , if we let it, this disease will kill us before it gets to them. We must put
ourselves first in our life, otherwise were not being good to ourselves and we are of
no use. Dont let it overwhelm you, as it can. Turn it over to your higher power.

Keep coming back and dont give up, because it works if you work it.

Luv, Bettina

tommyecat · ~*Service Worker*~

Alcoholism is a family disease and it does affects everyone in its path. I know the sense of hopelessness and despair you described for I too live with active alcoholism.

There is hope. I have found it in the face to face rooms of alanon. I got a sponsor and began working the steps inorder to gain perspective, clarity and peace within my circumstances. I have found that peace, joy, and happiness whether or not my AH is drinking. I do it one day at a time, one moment at a time.

Please consider going to a face to face meeting. The people in the rooms of Alanon understand us as few other could. They gave me the ability to be heard, to accept me just as I am, and provide the necessary support, compassion, and love I needed through the most difficult of times. That is one of the reasons that keep me coming back. I do so hope you give it a try.

Please continue to post as we do so appreciate the opportunity to get to know you better. Keep coming back!

In support, tommye

Breakingfree · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi Woodenships, I too am in a sad place today, but I know this too shall pass. You are not alone and I am sending you love and support!!!

-- Edited by Breakingfree on Tuesday 20th of September 2011 10:06:52 AM

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

Wanted to thank you for getting in touch with me in PM. I want you to know I am here for you, you are not alone. I am serious you can call me anytime.

I can tell you for me, what helps is to be proactive.Your finding programs to help, searching online to learn about cirrhosis, facing things that are not easy to face, taking one step at a time, can ease your mind.

Also you can nap. Its ok to leave the dishes etc for a day or two and just take a nap. I don't know if you have sick leave at work but where i worked you could use it i f you had a sick family member. Also others could give you their sick days too.

there is a family leave program too that is a federal law you can use, You cannot lose your job, but you may lose that position.

you also might check with Social Security about you being paid to be his caretaker whilst you take the family medical leave so you can be home. I did that when i lost my mother And bless my coworkers hearts, I did not miss any of my paycheck.

I invite you to cont to seek your options, but also to nap.I knowit is crazy but I tell ya reading The "Farside" took me away and so did the movie "Uncle Buck" I am twisted that way!

glad you posted, believe me we already love you. debilyn

ELEKTRAWMN · Senior Member

Love, hugs and support to you....

Keep coming back!

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"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"