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Debilyn


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Ok I got very concerned about a new member. Sounds like some very serious stuff is going on.

This person and I pm'ed. The situation is dire, she is alone in it. I shared all I could from my experience, keep them in my prayers.

I felt pretty well geez what emotion? I needed to share what I  could with out giving up any confidances. why can't I spell anymore....anyway I was all confused inside, afraid for them, afraid for her not knowing what to do.

Who would I talk to here. Well Jerry of course came to mind. I could hear him already, it's their obstacle, we need to allow them to figure it all out. sigh, or something like that. I knew he would take it out of my head tell me to put it back where it belonged. All I can do is pray and share, and listen.

But, ya butt, ya butt, yabutt nothing. I think I needed to share it becuz it felt and is so serious, and this poor young gal is alone and I felt helpless. Needed to share it, but Jerry piped in and I let it go where it belongs, or where it is anyway.

I sent her a pm and hope they are ok. It touched home unoo? After so many deaths of my loved ones to this disease, knowing her pain or even more,what she is going to go thru, ripped me apart sigh.

ugh, this disease is such a heart grabber. love,debilyn ps and of course Jerry was right, and he didn't say a word!!



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Katy


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Saying nothing is such a powerful tool for me, it gives me peace of mind and clarity, it allows me to step aside and let a power greater than myself takecare of things, I didn't cause, can't control, and most importantly can't change.

Great wareness.

Love katy

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Pushka


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Hugs Deb,

I find it hard to hear such pain at times and agree with Katy. Everyone is so different with what they feel and how they deal with things. It's so good you have such a caring heart, there is nothing wrong with that.

Hugs P :)

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tommyecat


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Ah Deb,

I know what you mean.  Sometimes you hear about a dire situation whether or not it is in a face to face meeting or on this board, it still haunts me.  I say a prayer when they come to mind asking God to give them what they need.  Only He knows. 

Thanks for taking the time to PM a new member to give them the comfort, support, and understanding they probably needed.

xoxo,

tommye



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The situation was too close to home for you. You're a sweetheart. You have a heart of gold. However, you know you can't fix her problems. I'm glad Jerry set you back on your path :)



-- Edited by GailMichelle on Sunday 18th of September 2011 03:10:44 PM

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rosielee


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i know what you are going through- i went through it when someones child died of leukemia. imagine if you were a nurse at the ICU....id imagine yud start out being involved, and then youd realise some coping strategy and realise that as fast as the last case is over- a new upsetting case comes. If only love and care would heal it all sadly it doesnt.

its good to care though

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Debilyn, you are a beakon of light here :) Keep on keeping on !!

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