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I've never posted here before - and haven't even taken the time to read the FAQs, but I will do that in a minute. I just need to vent a bit first.
My husband is off at his second-ever AA meeting at the moment - or so he told me. Except that his sponsor called our home number about twenty minutes after the meeting started, so clearly he's not there. :(
We have two small children, and I'm having a heck of a time getting them into bed tonight - my daughter was at her grandparents last night, and my son is teething, so everything is a bit upside down for both of them today. So I thought, if DH isn't going to be at his meeting, the least he could do is get himself home and give me a hand with the parenting. So I called his cell - only to hear it ringing in the livingroom. Argh.
The thing is, this isn't new for him. 90% of the time, he has "forgotten" his cell when he's doing something that I'm going to be mad at him about. He can be all responsible and accountable and (relatively) sober most of the time, and he always has his phone with him then. But guaranteed, the night he skips his meeting, or the night that he's three hours later getting back than he promised - of course those are the nights he conveniently doesn't have his phone with him.
Like I said, this is all very new to me. The recovery, that is - not the alcoholism, I've been dealing with that for a long time. I'm not even really looking for advice right now - just wanted to put this out there to someone who understands.
Welcome and please keep coming back, there are so many wonderful people on the boards and you will find lots of acceptance. Please keep coming back, you didn't mention if you were also seeing recovery through alanon at the moment or not.
Hugs, P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Welcome Dufferin! Thanks for posting and welcome :) I hope you will also find a lot of strength and comfort through this recovery process. I know it feels like a true lifeline for me these days.
I am so glad you have found us. Please stick around and continue to post, we would like to get to know you better. Many of us here too have had the same feelings as you regarding our loved ones in or out of recovery. We here understand your problems as few others could. This place helped me lighten my load as I dumped the garbage out of my head to help me gain a new perspective.
Thanks for the welcome! Pushka, I'm not in AlAnon at the moment - I'm focusing on exercise and meditation right now, as a way of mananging my own physical and mental health. Part of the problem is that the only AlAnon meeting I could conventiently attend is at the exact same time as his AA meeting, which isn't terribly helpful. :S But we'll see, maybe things will change down the road.
Looking forward to getting to know all of you - I read some interesting threads last night, and I'm glad to see there are lots of people out there who understand what I'm going through. I'll be back, absolutely!
Dufferin, HUGS and welcome here! This board has helped me get myself to meetings so that I can get on the road to recovery. You mention that the meeting you can get to is at the same time as your AH's. Thats great, gives you something to do, while he goes to his! You can bring the kiddos, I have seen many meetings where kids are there, because the parent has to bring them. Reaching out and breaking out of isolation the most important thing you can do right now. So coming here is great :) Going to meetings is where I get the human contact and closeness that I need, and the people there welcome me in with warm smiles and hugs. These people understand me and I am not unique. And Oh how I thought I was! No one could be anything like me, yet I got to the meetings and the people know just where I am. The meetings will help you feel better and get recovery for you. We have to recover from the affects of alcoholism just as the A does. You see, we have the same disease, its just that we are addicted to our A's just as much as they are addicted to the substance. The books that help: One Day at a time in Alanon (Just awesome) Courage to Change As We understood
I got all these books for real cheap on Amanon.com.
Keep coming :)
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