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Just wanted to share that I am starting to believe this stuff works! Thanks to all my Al-Anon brothers and sisters who have talked me down and cheered me up.
I have been slowly participating in the pricinpals and teachings of Al-Anon for about 2 months. I was just starting to see that I can truly get better if I focus on myself rather than my Afiance and his antics.
Lo and behold, a promotion at work has presented itself to me. I should find out today if I will get it, but it's looking very good. I truly believe that had I not found this site and my F2F meetings, I would still be stuck doing the same things, the screaming, fighting, yelling, crying, getting sick, losing sleep and coming in to work 1/2 ready for my day.
While my Afiance is going to counseling and trying to stay sober, he still slips a few times a week. Since starting this program I am better equipped with how to handle those times. Since I have turned things over to my Higher Power, I can see things changing. I am more positive and productive. My superiors at work must see that too.
Thanks again to everyone on this board. I'll let you know how it goes!
Congrats on your wonderful news both in the professional world as well as in your own healing!! Keep us posted!!
Hugs, P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
LOL...NovSun, I love your last sentence there :) Don't we all? And good for you for your hopeful promotion! Let us know! HUGS! Take care of you, keep posting :)
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Let go and let God...Let it be... let it begin with me...
Good news - I got the job!! I start training today. Big promotion, more money, more responsibility. Good also because I won't have time during the day to obsess over whether my Afiance drinks or not.
On that note, couldn't get through even ONE DAY of no drama. I came home from work last night with good news to share and he was plowed. Disheartening. Upsetting. I couldn't even share my good news with the one person who should care the most. UGH. Feeling a little defeated about that today.
Question - he said some pretty awful things last night. I know it's the disease/alcohol talking... but do I tell him today what he said? Do I tell him today how mean he was? Do I tell him how I feel that I may not want to marry him because of these things? Any ESH would be appreciated.
