HI everyone I haven't been overly active for the past few days.  for the past three weeks I have been on here all day every day.

I have been trying to put into practice the things I have learned.  Someone told me once, stop trying and actually do it.  So I think I did it.

My husband did not smoke any pot this weekend. I have no idea why, I didn't ask him.  I didn't bring it up, I didn't mention the topic at all.

I was waiting for it all weekend.  I had my Sunday planned.  Sleep in, potter around the house a bit, go out to a camping shop to look at a gift for him for Xmas, go out for lunch, movies with friends.  I made it clear he is welcome to come with me to any of that.  I didn't put a caveat on it.  He came with me and didn't smoke at all.

Every now and then I started getting a bit tense waiting for it and kept telling myself.. its ok, this is normal behaviour in our home.  He is a smoker.  I physically stopped what I was doing, took a deep breath and visualised handing it up into the universe.  I knew she would know what to do with that energy.  If he has a smoke, that is ok, you just keep doing what you are doing.

I didn't make a fuss over him not smoking like Iwould have previously. 

Here is the shocker though.  We had a bit of a 'discussion' over him going fishing!!! It was short lived and it was not an argument or anything, but he was very defensive.  He wants to go away for a weekend with his mate and camp overnight and take a day off work to go fishing.  I said he should talk to me about it and ask my feelings about it before saying to me, "I AM going fishing". 

 I didn't mean to be, but I think that is my main problem.  I get so wrapped up in things.  He thought I wanted him to ask permission and I don't. 

Anyhooooooo..... it was all good and it was sorted out with a gentle discussion.  He can be such a 'boy' sometimes.

So I wanted to share that not only have I accepted that he is a pot head, and I have stopped getting tangled up when he smokes when I am not home and he goes to work stoned... that is none of my business I have decided.  He smoked three mornings last week out of the 5!!! Not my problem really.

He also had a weekend where he didn't smoke with me at all.  I stayed very busy, and he was busy with me... but I was ready to stay busy even if he did have a smoke.

I feel good.  I know it will change.  He is not ceasing smoking, I am hoping though that he will reduce the amount he smokes when I am doing things with him.

Will see how long it lasts.

Thanks