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Hot Chicka


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Drinking last night turned into drinking today.  Months and months of sobriety ended by a 2-day bender.

So what am I going to do about me?

I am not going to be snarky, naggy, lecture, or be catty.  I will be respectful and courteous.  I will keep a respectful distance since I don't like to be around him when he is drunk.

If he asks me "how I feel about it" I will tell him, but not in a mean way. 

I will not project weeks, months, years into the future.  I'll just worry about today.



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RLC


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Hot Chicka,

Detaching and working your program. Good for you. He is going to do what he is going to do. Keep the focus on yourself.

HUGS,
RLC



-- Edited by RLC on Thursday 25th of August 2011 09:49:29 PM

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Pushka


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Hugs HC,

I vote for just "being in" today. :) I hope you found time to do some self care. Sending you love and support during this time, and positive thoughts for your continued healing.

Hugs P :)

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pineapple


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(((Hot Chicka))) This situation has to be tough for you. But you've got the right attitude. Keep working your program and taking care of you!

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Hi Hot Chicka,

Thanks for your post. I like the part about being respectful and courteous. I will be carrying those words in my back pocket today.

We have to remember we are worth it. We owe it to ourselves to be sane.

hugs,
November Sunflower

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Hot Chicka (((HUGS)))!!!
Thats all we can do. It works when we work it. Share here, read here, read alanon literature, go to a meeting, call your sponsor... some of the greatest tools are available when we work the program... I have even found that listening to the pod casts on XA speaker work great too :) HUGS!

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Lindaoakford


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hey there ... good on you... we are all with you

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Hot Chicka


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While he was stumbling around, I had this sudden image of a monkey sitting on his shoulder. The monkey had a drink in one hand, and a leash in the other. He was making AH drink, and then leading him around to do "stupid" things (stumbling, slurry, acting stupid), all the time while laughing at AH. This visual really helped me to detach from being upset that AH was drinking for the first time in months.

He tried halfheartedly to bring it up, "Is something bothering you?" but I didn't rise to the bait. It's passed, and for today, I'm going to have a great day.

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