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My dad is visiting me. Aside from 4 months ago, I have not seen him in 4 years. He is also an alcoholic, part of the reason he and my mother separated when I was 10 was because of his drinking problem. he also helped me tremendously during one of the most difficult times in my life as pregnant teen who had been kicked out by my mother. I don't know what the problem is- I have never seen him drunk, and he is also on some medicine that does not allow him to have alcohol. Well, today, he drank three of my AH's beers, and then when I was going out to buy something, he asked me to pick up a six pack, which I did and I really didn't want to.
I felt horrible doing that. here I am struggling to get my life together after dealing with an alcoholic spouse and I am buying more beer for my father.
In addition, my husband and I have not spoken to each other since Saturday when I asked him to leave. We are being civil to each other, and I have only communicated with him regarding things that need to be done, "Will you be using the GPS tomorrow?" "Were you able to exchange my daughter's shoes that didn't fit?" "did you check with the mechanic, when will the car be ready?" Other than that we say good night to each other and continue our routine as usual: he goes to work, he calls the girls, we ask each other how we are, he comes home, has a few beers and goes to bed, and I go to bed way after cause I'm doing my own thing and that's my "me" time. My husband didn't have a single beer yesterday, I suppose in hopes of getting me into bed with him.
Is there any chance you are headed to any kind of meeting this week? I know when I feel that way going to a meeting makes me feel sooo much better. :)
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
I am planning on going Friday. That's the one I usually attend. Thanks. and to make matters worse my AH is now apologizing for drinking today, nonetheless, still sitting there drinking. I know I should not be pre-occupied with him, but I am thinking too much. It is 9pm and I can't go out now. I giuess I will go to sleep and pray.
-- Edited by odalis on Wednesday 24th of August 2011 08:12:33 PM
Hugs, thinking of you and sending love and support your way. I understand how hard things can be on some days, and all we can do is the best we can do. I'm really glad you are going to a meeting on Friday it does make a big difference, at least for me it does.
Hugs again, P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
