The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I wanted to share something I heard in my meeting last night. A long time member was reflecting on his early days in Al Anon, where he was talking to someone who had been in the program a while. He was venting about all of the horrible things his wife was doing, and the other member just kept saying "yes, but you'll be ok". He said no matter what he said about what his wife had done, the more seasoned member just kept saying "yes, but you'll be ok"...
I think that's the attitude that I and all of us have to have. No matter what our spouse or significant other does, I will be ok. I don't have to be codependent on their moods or struggles.
There is a light at the end of the tunnel and we aren't alone. That for me was the biggest thing always feeling like I was alone. I can be alone however to be alone in pain is not a place I have enjoyed. We all have a choice in how we look at life and how we look at our own situations. They aren't pretty all of the time however I know for me I get to make it better or make it worse for myself.
Thank you for the share :) P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
That was a major thing when I was finally able to say that I would be okay no matter what happened. Shoot, I had been proving it all along but I just forgot to look and give myself credit! Good for you to be able to internalize that thought.
