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another acronym that I find so difficult. Why is it that my anger can just fuel such emotion in me I understand it on;y make things worse? And when I'm hungry I eat poorly and binge on junk rather tfan take the time to eat something that will nourish me rather fill the whole? I'm lonely and sometimes so very lonely it is such an painful experience. So why do I shun people or family and wallow in this misery?Tired is another demon for me.Why is it when all these thing creep into my daily routine tired as I might be I stay up and waste time with tv and the internet seeking company and comfort? Am I the only one that this happens to? Should I put up this slogan all over as a reminder? I am all of these things as I type.So the logical thing to do is eat and go to bed right? I guess I am the only one that can answer or change these questions. So if you were to guess .What will I do? What do you do?
I've been joking about halt I want to change it to hhalt. Hormonal, hungry, lonely, tired. Some days are just better than others as far as me having to put myself out there. ;)
I will own it's easier to hide in my house than go out into the world I'm safe. No emotional risks, that is when I know I have to get out like it or not.
I can offer is what I do. I go outside on nice days earlier than normal and read my books as I just take in the outside. it takes me out of my funk to enjoy life happening around me, I hunt for the tomato worms lol. I find reading outside, reading the slogans, reading through the knowledge I get at meetings (note taker). It gives me confidence to go forward with getting out and doing things I might not be comfortable doing our maybe I should do and don't want to.
I was just having this very conversation with a valued friend and she made the comment if someone said to her I would be out at 10 pm with people socializing even just 2 years ago she would have said no way. It just goes to show how ala non works. Go easy on yourself progress not perfection. If you need to write slogans down post them on the refrigerator, bathroom mirror, in your car do it. You get to do what makes you feel better. It's about what works for you in your own time as long as you work the program. ;) hugs p ;) you are so worth it!!
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Hi, sirchef. First, let me offer my support and prayers. We are here together, even though our issues are each unique unto themselve. Everyone and everything is different. That's what makes it so challenging.
Anyway, that being said, just eating and going to bed may not always help. Takes care of hungry and tired, but what about lonely and angry. Even when it's overwhelming, try to find some activity to do to get out some of that energy and to connect with the world. That doesn't mean you have to find people to go out with, or socialize with a group of people when you really don't want to. Weed the garden. Journal. Refinish an old frame. Exercise. Read. Take a pottery class and use some of that anger to pound out your clay and turn it into something creative. I'm not saying it will be easy, but eventually, you find you're not thinking so much about how to fix the problem (which you can't anyway), but how to be creative, how to move forward in your life. Love and hugs.
I know from experience that there are two things that remind me that I don't have to be where I am at...it's just a matter of actually acting and doing instead of thinking....which is the hardest thing sometimes.
Do what you love, and others will love what you do. (because they see you for who you really are as your doing it and enjoy you in a different light).
Birds of a Feather Flock Together (Likes alike....we connect to those who are similar to ourselves, in our likes, or mannerisms, our interests, in our body reactions, our behaviors).
It's hard to be happy when the world is falling apart under your feet. It's also hard to fake it til you make it.....these two little tools remind me that if I am down & out and gloomy and moping around...I will find others seemingly feeling & being similar - if I am doing something I enjoy and can be in the moment, I not only feel better while doing so, but my outer 'sunshine' is much more appealing and noted by others around me.
But, all you should ask of yourself is...to 'try' - One Day at a Time...and slowly those 'things' seem to become lesser and lesser as you move further and further into a happier YOU!
"Just for Today" ... I can do something for one minute, for one hour, for one day - that which would Kill me if I had to do it forever!
I wish you lots of support and comfort, my friend!
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-- Edited by lacewing on Wednesday 24th of August 2011 01:59:27 AM
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...He compared his weathered hand to mine and said, ... GROWTH OF THE MIND AND HEART are the best offers you can give.my Grandfather (Keeper of Stories), to me
