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GreenK


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I took some time to read some posts and replies and I'm already calming down.  I was headed in a very bad direction about an hour ago and was in a pretty bad state of mind but I was able to pay attention to my thoughts.  They were, "Really?  Is this all there is?  Are you kidding me?" And, "Where is MY reward?  So and so does nothing and she had a kind decent husband, what's wrong with me?"  And on and on.  The difference is now I can stop in my tracks and turn it around.  I can't make myself feel great or anything like that but I can prevent myself from causing further damage.

Man!  I could keep going on but I know you guys will understand!  I can even see the humor in it and I know I need to get out and get some exercise so off I go.  Even though a part of me wants to wallow....



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hotrod


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Great Share  

 I do believe that "Telling on MYself" when I am beginning to go down that road is very helpful. 

Glad you heard the negative talk, decided to do something constructive and let go of the "pity party"  It sounded just like minesmile 



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Pushka


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Something we talked about in the meeting last night is going down the bad road and finding out that those responses no longer fit. Working the program has put a bug in our brain that those behaviors are not healthy and no longer what we want for ourselves. Pat yourself on the back, it's a step forward :)

Hugs P :)



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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
GreenK


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Thank you!  I'm having alot of uncomfortable feelings and thoughts but I'm just riding it out. I'm experiencing anger toward my AH as I'm detaching from him more and more.  In the beginning it was such a relief.  He comes off so cocky and so superior that I just want to see him come down off his high horse.  He's always been that way and I'm feeling like I just can't be in the same room with him lately. 

So...I'll just give myself the space I need until I figure out (or God figures out) what I need to do next.

I just want to aknowledge how much courage it takes to walk in those meeting doors, to ask for a sponsor and to work this program as hard as we do.  Yay for us!!!

Off to start Step 6!

 



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