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Since we had such fun with acceptence here's another one Ican't get past. Hope we all need it to get through this mess. But isn't hope just another projection of our idea of reality? Or do we really just hope for something other than present reality and take what ever that may be? Is hope a projection?
I don't know, I like to think hope is the driving force of faith. To loose hope would be an awful way to live. You hear about people all the time surviving against all odds and the common factor always seems to come down to never loosing hope. I guess if reality is different, such as a loved one had passed away and people insist they are alive that would just be denial. Good question!! ;)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
For me...Hope is that step just before trust. That is how it worked for me. What I stood on before stepping up to hope was dread. I'm listening for the ESH that's coming.
Dear sirchef, When you pose the question in this way---yes, I suppose it is.
Everything we think and feel is based on our perceptions. Thus, our perceptions are our reality. Everyone has a reality---no matter how distorted that may appear to someone else. So, hope would be a projection of our reality.
This is my twist on your question
I HOPE this makes some sense (LOL)
Sincerely, Otie
P.S. May I ask why you ask, please?
-- Edited by Otie on Friday 19th of August 2011 04:49:21 AM
Hope for me is:The Firm Belief that NOTHING will happen that HP and I cannot handle.
I too lived in dread of what might happen before alanon.
Since alanon. the most terrible things have happened in my life and HP and I have handled them. There was great pain, terrible loss, sadness, joy and happiness. I have finally learned how to live life on Life's terms.
Hope for me is faith in the positive. I try to turn things around and have hope that things will work out well. Its in my prayer to HP that I have faith the day will go well. I do not give up hope, because then I fall into depression. I try to look for the good in things because otherwise, I am not living in my spiritual program...Hope for the flowers is one of my favorite children's books. Look it up, maybe you will see what hope is...for me :)
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HOPE is faith that with our trust of HP all things are possible. I had a hard time between hope and expectations...and i know you have heard me share on that a hundred times. If I ever give up hope not just for my A but the fact I am working on a better me than what am I doing here? I came here with the hope of a better way of life and I keep that hope alive when things get overwhemling by remembering where i was pre alanon and where I am today. Not perfect or cured by any stretch of the imagination but able to see and appreciate the good and the love in my life. From the smallest thing of watching my dasies bloom to spending time with my A in a sober moment. I spent a very long time again pre alanon with no hope of ever being able to be happy again because all i could see was the negative and thinking nothing could possibly help me. Trying medications and therapy that didn't do a thing for me. And when I thought really all was lost because I was so lost, I literally fell to my knees one morning and prayed to an HP I had left behind long ago, thankfully he hadn't left me behind and 2 days later I was lead to alanon. I went in with no hope or expectaions just out of pure desperation, and the wonderful loving people of this program held my hand, prayed for me and lead me to a place of hope my helping me see my potential. I will never give up hope on the people I love who suffer from this disease because I have seen so many others get thier miracle. But this program is for me and becoming the person I was meant to be, not the person my past dictated I become and it's a little scary at my age to change mid stream but the program has also given me strenght to make changes for me and not worry about what anyone else thinks of my life changes. And I leaned on this program ( still do ) to help keep my hope alive. when I get into the negative space there is always someone to remind me of where i came from and where i can get to, to claim my miracle. Keep that hope alive.... your miracle is out there with mine waiting for us to reach out a grab it and you are doing great! Blessings Always
There is always hope especially for Me , I have choices to day I can stay a victim of this disease or rise above it ..carry on with my life working towards my goals . I remember the day when I said outloud that is enough this disease has had enough of my life and that is the day I started to walk the walk not just talk the talk . is it easy ? no its not its damn hard work but very rewarding . and of course there is always hope that the alcoholic will seek sobriety but I couldnt sit around and wait anymore life is too short . Al-Anon is about me for me I can either recover or stay stuck .
