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I have to remember to "let go" when someone is doing something I don't like. I know that people are all individuals and that they can do as they wish, just as I do. When I let go of out comes, I can continue to live in this very moment instead of worrying and projecting about what "might" happen.
I need to be in the now, live in the now. Now is all I have. I hate to say it (some people don't want to be like an animal) but much like a cat or dog does, they don't worry about tomorrow or feel sad about yesterday... they just live in RIGHT NOW. And when I keep that in mind and keep focusing on me and what I am doing, I am better able to "let go" and let people be themselves...
My sponsor said the other day to change how I say things...instead of "if he gets sober, or if this happens...." she said to say "when he gets sober, or when this happens"... get rid of the IF'S! Its more positive...
Let go of out comes and live in the now :)
Each day I am learning to stop the circus that is in town in my head... Stop the old tapes, give it over to HP and allow others to live...live and let live. When I stop living in the problem I can start living in the solution... I am trying every day and I am feeling better due to my sponsor, knowing she is supporting me, the meetings I go to and this wonderful board of people who I have learned so much from :)
Thanks, I will keep coming....
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Let go and let God...Let it be... let it begin with me...
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Hugs I just read the coolest thing that shortened the first three steps nicely.
I can't. God can. I'll let him.
Hugs you work that program ;) p ;)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Great awareness, your doing all the right things...going to meetings, sponsorship, coming to MIP and reaching out. There's a difference between being a Miracle In Progress and being a Miracle.....from where I sit.....your the latter.
Hmmm, I am wondering about the "When he gets sober..." I thought "When he gets sober..." for so many years, putting my life on hold until that magical day. Finally I had to realize that the "when" was just in my own mind -- there wasn't any reality to it. I had to act as if he wasn't going to get sober. Which he wasn't. Maybe he will one day, but it's been sixteen years since I started saying "When he gets sober..." and no sobriety so far.
So that seems like what your sponsor was saying about living in the now -- acknowledging that he isn't sober and that's what's happening -- but I don't understand how saying "when he gets sober" is an example of that. Confused!
My sponsor has always said to live in now. And to be positive. The way she works her program is being positive and turning negatives around. The live in the now and accept things how they are is from the aa big book. Sorry if you felt confused!
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Let go and let God...Let it be... let it begin with me...
For me I have known my alcoholic for 16 years and been married for 10. Before the alanon program I too suffered under the guise of "when he gets sober" and my life was on hold. Since I have been active member of alanon for quite a few 24 hours, I have experienced there is heaven on earth despite the absence or presence of my loved ones drinking. Part of that reality comes from living life on life's terms, taking it one day at a time, letting go and letting God, and being responsible for my attitudes, actions, and inner being. I can wake up any day and say "Good morning God or Good God, It's Morning" Changed attitudes, compassion, humility, and being gently with myself have been key for me to have a greater understanding and compassion towards those that still suffer from the disease.
I have found a depth of love for my spouse that I have not previously felt. Humor, laughter and joy have returned to our family and has been present for years. I no longer personalize the disease and know that only God knows what it takes to get them into recovery.
For me I cling to the promise that God is still in the miracle business. He has profoundly changed my life in so many ways, saved my marriage, and gives me what I need one day at a time. I do not want for anything. That to me is a miracle and a blessing for which I believe youfoundme was describing in her original post.
Thanks for the topic today. I just love letting go, and living in the present moment. It is there where I can find my Higher Power and access His unabiding love.
Thank you Tommye :) Your journey has helped me so much in my own beginning steps :) I love the pod casts you introduced to me with the old timers telling their stories. On how they did it....
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Let go and let God...Let it be... let it begin with me...
